I would really like to hear from you guys out there! My boyfriend says he is in love with me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but when I bring up getting engaged, he says he is not ready for that commitement. I want to hear answers from a guy's point of view. I would not mind hearing from the girls as long as you don't tell me to get knocked up or something ridiculous like that. I don't want to MAKE him marry me.
2006-10-01 09:00:41 · 13 answers · asked by snagette71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmmmm.... how old is he? This is far more natural at 22 then, say, 30. Seriously, it could be a number of things. Maybe he is insecure, maybe his parents always fought, maybe he likes to party, all stuff that you would know better than I. You said he loves you, I assume you also love him very much? I would avoid nagging him, but you need to let him now how you feel, which it seems you've already done. The high road would be to allow him to make up his mind in due time. However, if you get the feeling he's just not going to do it, then might have to move on, no point in waiting for something that won't happen.
2006-10-01 09:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you guys living together? If you are then he might not want to get married because he has it all right now without the commitment. I am sure he does love you or he wouldn't be around, but it's time he grows up and realizes that marriage is part of life. Four years is a long time!
No, I do not think you should even consider getting pregnant. If he is not willing to get married, I would not want you to be a single parent either. Sometimes it might take you to give him an ultimatum to make things happen. But, make sure you are ready for his answer. Whatever that might be. Good luck dear.
2006-10-01 09:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same way you do in this situation! I would honestly sit down with him and explain to him that because you guys have been together for 4 years and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you that it is only right for you to get married. I am not sure exactly what he is thinking because he is obviously, a male. Let him know that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level and become his wife and the mother of his children. Everything will work out in the end but just explain to him why it would also make you more comfortable to get married now! Good Luck Gurly!! :)
2006-10-01 09:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free. At some point you're going to have to walk away from this situation because he's not giving you what you want.
I mean if the relationship is that great and it has progressed to this point, why not get married. They're benefits to being married....so I think he's talking out the side of his neck...giving you the lame excuse he isn't ready to get married, yet he's playing a married man on TV.
2006-10-01 09:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by zeta121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you having sex with him (BIG mistake)? If so, then why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Look, this is serious and you're in danger of wasting your time and wasting your life. Four years is a long time and I think you need to know his intentions or consider moving on. I don't like the sound of this. This is fatherly advice.
2006-10-01 09:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's able to say such things because it's NOT a committmant. The minute his back is against the wall (so to speak) maybe he feels trapped......not his decision.......whatever.
Hey if ya have a loving, working relationship, then why ruin it.
Marriage has a way of putting a damper on things.
Ya know the ole saying...........If it aint broke.......
2006-10-01 09:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that exact same situation very recently. We ended up getting married and then he destroyed my life. When two people are in love, they naturally want to spend their lives together. By him saying that to you, he is really saying I want you around in my life, just not enough.
2006-10-01 09:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years its time to move on !
2006-10-01 09:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now wake up and smell the coffee! I'm a woman, if he wanted to marry you, don't you think he would of asked you by now. what you could do is act like your leaving him. tell him hes waisting 4yrs of your life. and if he loves you maybe he will pop the question.
2006-10-01 09:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by MARCIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 and never have been, or ever will, be married! Seen too much misery in others.....
2006-10-01 09:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋