What advice would you give to a young women considering becoming pergnant?

Question

How would the woman's age, education, family history, and economic status influence your answer.

Answer 1

Well, family history and even education would have minimal impact on my answer as those won't necessarily have any effect on the woman's ability to raise the child properly. The rest of your criteria would, however. Having had a child at 18, almost 19, this would also influence it. My pregnancy was planned and I was married prior to becoming pregnant, I'll add.

My advice to a woman who was, say, younger than a college grad (23?), unmarried or had low income would be to hold off because having the child at that time would almost guarantee that they wouldn't be able to better the situation and that would cause stress on the mother child would suffer in the long run. Plus younger mothers have pess life experience and a harder time developing parenting skills than older mothers.

For a woman in the best of situations I'd still say to make sure they were in the best of health possible and to think it over and make sure they're in a stable relationship, preferably marriage, because fathers really are important.

Answer 2

How young? If younger than early 20s, I'd say wait until you've had a chance to really experience life so you have the knowledge and wisdom it takes to raise a child. Growing up together is not a good idea.

If you are not married or are newly married, do not have a child. Period. Kids need stability, and shacking up is not stability. New marriages need time for the couple to get comfortable with each other before they complicate their lives with a child. And if your marriage is not rock solid, don't even think about having a baby!

If you have not finished whatever education you plan to get, wait. Get a good job and save a little money. Experience life as an adult.

Do you or your husband make enough money to support the child? - a baby is expensive! Can you afford for one of you to be the primary caregiver of this child - why have a baby and then leave it for a day care center to raise for 12 hours a day!? I'm not saying you can't both have careers, but one of you should be able to be with the baby a substantial portion of each day, even if that means going part-time for a while.

Do either of you have genetic diseases in your family? Caring for a severely handicapped child is exhausting.

Why do you want to have a child? Are you realistic about the stress involved - physical (lack of sleep being a biggy) as well as emotional? Why now?

My daughter did a lot of babysitting as an early teen - and said it was like being vaccinated against pregnancy, as she really understood that a baby is not a living toy. A lot of young women take on parenting without a clue as to what is involved.

Answer 3

In a perfect world.....Every woman should be educated and have the ability to support herself and a new baby without the help of a man before they have a child. I am not saying a single woman should not raise kids, it is just that 2 parents are better than one in most cases.

If a woman can support herself and her child on her income alone she stands a better chance of having less stress from the worries of day to day living.

Family history has nothing to do with it unless she is whacked out on drugs and booze, then that is a problem not only for the unborn child but for society too.

Her age would optimally be between 25 - 35, generally a time in life when adults have done their partying and have an education behind them and a career already started. They are also mature enough to be ready emotionally and financially. (We would hope)

Answer 4

It depends on your beliefs. We are in a society where you can pay to get your egg fertilized, singles can adopt and a society in which gays raise children. Not that I care either way because my belief is live your life in the way that you wish. My only advice would be that the person is MENTALLY stable formost and ready to raise a child physically and financially. Make sure that you can provide a loving, caring and stable environment for the child go for it. I am a person that wants a child very badly but if it is meant I feel that God will allow it to happen. As far as age its just a number that we like to categorize things. Education is important because knowledge open doors socially, financially, and professionally. Family history influences the kind of parent you will be along with personal experiences. I hope that helped.

Answer 5

Are you physically and emotionally healthy enough to deal with motherhood? Will you be raising the child alone or will the father be involved and what kind of person is he? In addition to these little details it would certainly be nice if you are financially stable and have good medical insurance. As far as education is concerned there is the kind that comes with a degree and there is one called common sense. Both kinds would give you a high score for potential motherhood. Consider where you will be living and opt for as safe a neighborhood as possible. Still there are many issues that no one can tell you about because the future often has many very interesting surprises.

Answer 6

I would say you need to be prepared, such as do you have an good education ? so you can support your self if need be, are you of an age that you know you can be a responsible parent?Are you willing to give up having a good time at party's and be able to go with your friends at any time you want?And do you have some one you truly love who wants what you want at this time? Who is ready for marriage and children?Its very hard to be a parent and you need some one who loves you and can share the load , because its huge! Baby's deserve to have 2 parents and lots of love. So if you have all that then I'd say go for it. But if your a teenager and think its what you want ,then no your not ready!!!!!

Answer 7

Everything in life is influence to the answer. Like other said, the baby need to be born in a family with lot of love, financial, and education, ofcourse.

Answer 8

If this woman is financially stable, can provide the baby with a well foundationed family/home to grow up in, love from BOTH parent, and a future (meaning can pay for college and etc.) then I don't see why not. However, being an "accident" myself, if this woman really can't provide the things that I've listed above, then I encourage her not to bring a baby into the world for it will only suffer.

Answer 9

Well i would say the only one you can depend on is yourself... regardless of family, husband, and yes economic status you should be ambitious or have a steady income to support the baby and you.

But dont depend on your husband sorry to say... alot of husband realize they dont want a family... and leave for a girl with no children, family die sometimes and are sometimes to involved in there lives to help with the baby.

ITs all womans responsibilitie. Regardless of what ever one says look at the movie stars... there husband leaves them right after cheats on them.... Be serious men are pigs and family is great they have their own lives to live!

Answer 10

I woould give the same response regardless of age, etc. Babies deserve to be born into families where the parents are in a committed, stable relationship.