does anyone have an opinion about this??

Question

i was in the hospital last night having contractions 2-3 mins apart...but they werent moving me along so i was sent home to wait it out. i am 38 weeks and 3.5-maybe 4 cm dilated and 70% effaced....my mom who is my main support while i deliver is going away on thursday and wont be back until monday...i really need her to be there when i have this baby. i have my husband there but my mom is a nurse and has been through this so many times i dont want to do it without her. last week my dr stripped my membranes but that didnt do the trick obviously...so i am going to call monday and ask them if they can induce me...the hosp. said they arent booked on wednsday...but im not sure they will induce for a nonmedical reason like that. does anyone have any opinions...is there a possibility even?? i think they are getting my money they should...but what do you think?

Answer 1

try scheduling a ceaserian secion you CAN do that inducing you with no medical reason can be harmful to you and your baby- good luck

Answer 2

If you are that far along already, inducing with pitocin should do the trick. I don't know why they didn't just keep you and do that. As far as your mother is concerned, I understand your wanting her there, but you can do it without her. My Mom was a nurse as well and passed away before I even met my husband. I had no choice but to go through all of pregnancy and having a newborn without her, and also with everything else in my life since she passed. The staff that is there to deliver your baby will be perfect, and your husband will give you the moral support you need. Your Mom can be there on the phone if needed. So don't worry, it'll all work out in the end. If the doc doesn't want to induce for whatever reason, it's better to let it all happen naturally without your Mom there, then it would be to risk complications.

Answer 3

You should really let the baby come when the baby and your body is ready, unless there are medical reasons to induce labor. I'm pretty sure your mother might concur about this. Besides, while it is wonderful for your mother to be there for you...and she more than likely will be...this is you and your spouse's time. This is your baby--so obviously, this is your choice. Its not that you 'need' her there...its because you 'want' her there...which is honorable--especially during the first time you give birth...your nervous. I am sure that if you have a cell phone...and ensure that she has one too...you two will be able to connect to the point where she will be able to get there during the most important part of the birthing process. Although, life has it's unexpected turn of events.

Have you discussed this with your spouse? How involved does your spouse want to be? Have you two been to lamaz classes? You will be fine. Be kind to your spouse & don't place your mother over him in this important event...he may be all the support that you need.

I had a midwife and I was fine. In fact, it was a very good thing that I and my baby were not under the influence of any medication--I had my daughter prematurely and had minor complications that would have been exaserbated by any medication....besides, I recouperated more quickly as well.

Answer 4

I had a similar experience with my wife. The only one thing that I would recommend is: NEVER GET A MIDWIFE, instead of a Doctor for when you go into labor.
A midwife will make you have that baby naturally even if you are not dilating; and they will not ask a Dr. to perform a "C" section. They will induce however... and induce... and induce labor until you're all worn out and beat up.
In a few words... GET A "C" SECTION!!

Answer 5

I was in the same boat as you last night. I too am 38 weeks and 3.5-4 cm dialated and I think 75% effaced. They sent me home too because I was not progressing quick enough. I followed up with my doctor this morning, and he would not induce me even though I asked him too. I am sorry that probably isn't the answer that you wanted to hear, but I have to be honest.

Answer 6

The thing you have to worry about is the childs health. The docs are not going to induce if they don't have a good reason to do so. Just wait it out and let nature take it's course.

Answer 7

They won't induce you unless you or the baby are in danger.You could drink4oz. of castor oil,it's completely safe and it works.WALK WALK WALK if you are 3 already walking can help your labor progress.Just think don't be upset it will be even easier for you to deliver you child cause you will be going into the hospital already dilated.Good luck sweetie,hang in there it's almost over.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

well...um I would try to wait it out...the longer you cook your baby the healthier it will be...if you obviously arent dialating very fast who knows maybe you can hold out until your mom gets back or talk to her and see if she can put off going where ever you go....as far as the induction....they are much more PAINFUL than a regular birth and if you arent dialating fast it is probably your body telling you you arent ready to let your baby go yet...usually they wont induce you till seven days after your expected due date...so tak to your doc. and discuss options and talk to your mom as well. Good luck.

Answer 10

It sounds like you're going to go any day now...good luck. I can't comment on the rest (I live in Canada--we don't have to pay for it, so we can't just order unneccessary surgeries out of convenience), but you could ask if there is anything you could do to try to start your labor. I understand your desire to have your mother there, but the reality is the baby will come out when he/she is ready, and not before. Have you tried asking your mom not to go out of town if that's an option for her?