For many couples it never happens to begin with. Look at the increasing number of single parents in the society today? I m not saying its bad to be a single parent, but wouldnt it be better to be together.....? Why dont marriages last anymore..who is to blame?
2006-10-01 08:22:07 · 60 answers · asked by Olderwiser 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SOCIETY as a whole. The media manipulates the majority off the population by publishing irrelevant information which should be in the privacy off the individuals.
In all honesty as we all progress into the future family values and true love is being more neglected than ever as image and status is far more important.
For those that rush things will see the bitter result in divorce proceedings as they never actually get to know one another before making that commitment.
It is as easy getting a divorce like it is going to the shops and picking out the latest gadget that makes you feel on top off the world before a matter off time and then the next fascination crops up and the other is discarded.
the nation has become so self absorb and brainwashed by impermanent subjects that they are oblivious that it is the simple things in life that really counts.
2006-10-01 09:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by June 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A number of things... a society valuing sex outside of marriage as OK as valuing sex inside marriage has devalued marriage. (Divorce tends to devalue marriage as well). There's less stigma associated with divorce. I don't think that many people getting married have the commitment necessary to have a long term relationship anyway.. it takes both sides to be committed. I think more people are growing up with less religion (or maybe rather less Christian, Jewish, or Islamic religion) so they haven't been taught about the importance of keeping a strong marriage. Instead of any spiritual significance, marriage is handled more as a contract between two people or a reason to celebrate. In fact, I think the modern concept many people have of marriage is a tad perverse, so no wonder many marriages don't last. Marriage between two people has to be based upon more than just love for one another, because human love, even human brotherly love, fades without support, and continual rebuilding and re-bonding. But if there's no earthly reason to rebuild and rebond, why do it?
I personally think God is the only true entity that can keep a marraige together and we're coming to a point where God isn't important to people anymore I fear this portends dire consequences. If we as a society have no sense in values, what will become of us? I'd rather trust God than societal evolution.
2006-10-01 09:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) The Government of the day has enabled children to reject the control of parents by making it more profitable to get pregnant have a child and be "independent". As a consequence children are not brought up with a balanced home life, the single parent goes into a relationship purely for the monetary benefits not at all concerned with choosing a lifetime marriage partner nor the effect this has on a child. Therefore save for the reason of death to a spouse to go into a relationship for the purposes outlined above is both selfish and short sighted.
Short sighted in this that instead of having some-one to SHARE a burden you face it alone.
Selfish because you think of yourself only not of what you deprive your child of what rightly is theirs.
Marriages now-a-days don't last because from the outset commitment is not there because the mindset "Oh if this does'nt work I'll try some-one else" reduces the need to seek long and selectively the one you believe will be your spouse for life.
Again the celebrities give a very distorted message regarding marriage "in today, out tomorrow" they have the money both to fight divorces and to remarry- it is just a game to them.
2006-10-01 09:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by John W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it is society.
I've heard a lot of "life's too short to be unhappy." So when you hit a rough spot, and everyone does at some point, whoever is unhappy is quick to give up and leave instead of working through whatever it is that making them unhappy. They tend to blame their spouse for their unhappiness. It's harder to stay, so they don't. The financial obligations, kids, and obligations to their spouse, become second thought to their own happiness.
Not to say marriage is all misery and gloom, it's not. My husband and I are very happy, but we both do what it takes to makes sure we feel part of each others lives and stay connected to each other. We each respect the others opinions and don't try to belittle each other, or put blame on each other. If we have an issue, we talk to each other about it and work out a plan to resolve it. Too many people are unwilling to do that.
2006-10-01 08:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriages don't last long is because people know that it is very easy to get a divorce and that it is hard work to keep a marriage together. The world is going to fast and so are marriages.
2006-10-01 13:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because we have become a 'throw-away' society and no one understands the concept of 'forever' anymore. People are so trapped in their romantic dreams that they are not prepared for the hard aspects of a relationship and assume that when it gets hard, it's over.
Also as there is no stigma to divorce anymore then there is no social pressure to stay married if they decide it's not working the way they wanted it to.
Pre-nuptual agreements are a sign of the times - people planning for their divorce before they've even got married!
Divorce is necessary sometimes, i.e. to end an abusive relationship or when a partner has cheated and has no intention of trying to regain the other partner's trust. But otherwise people should realise that they've made their bed and should lie in it. People who aren't prepared to stick by their decision shouldn't bother getting married at all.
2006-10-01 08:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think that we as a society have forgoten what marriage and family are about....spending and enjoying time together without having to spend a fortune. But having said that the pressure of modern living, trying to make ends meet is just too much. I'm a single mother and would have loved for my marriage to stay together but after 8 years together it was flogging a dead horse and just no point in it. But i would like to think that some marriages do last......
2006-10-01 10:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no easy or straightforward answer to that question. People's expectations of marriage have changed. Society's attitude towards marriage has changed. In some cases people don't have the right reasons for getting married, so it doesn't last. unfortunately, unless society goes back to the original values on which the institution of marriage was built, marriage as we know it will become extinct.
2006-10-01 08:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think marriage is an outdated institution and I don't know why anyone would want to trap themselves into something that is a nightmare to get out of! Marriage does not mean staying together forever, it's more like a stop gap for some people until they find someone else. Looking around at the people I know, I've noticed that marriages often go sour as soon as children come along and some people even make the mistake of having children to try to save a marriage - crazy!!!
2006-10-01 08:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by lovelylexie 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Marriages... don't last anymore because a lot of individuals get into a marriage for different reasons... many times it's not because they want to spend the rest of their lives together. I think that many times people don't think about the future. I know lot of times people get married due to looks, money, and stability. The only ones to blame are the 2 individuals that are entering the relationship. If your entering it for the wrong reasons it wasn't meant to be in the first place.
2006-10-01 08:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Red 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋