My husband and I always fight. I try to communicate, but he doesn't let me get a word in edgewise. Sometimes I think I love him, but I just don't think I can live with him anymore. I have to be a perfect wife type. I cook, clean, pay bills, run errands, run after a two year old, and work full time. He works full time too, but just comes home and lays on the couch.
This is not a pity party, I just need some opinions.
2006-10-01 08:10:14 · 14 answers · asked by manicschematic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For all taking a religious approach....How does someone know we don't serve God, just because I am new in the walk, doesn't mean I don't. Besides, if you are a Christian, you should know that if one person in the marriage is Christian, then God still blesses it.
2006-10-01 08:59:42 · update #1
i think your marriage is over when you aren't seeking answers to save your marriage if it was over you wouldn't want to know when you would just know i know at times you feel overwhelmed with being a mother, a wife, a taxicab driver among other things and you feel unappreciated at times but he he does appreciate it why don't you go one day with out doing anything and see how long it takes him to notice then you will know that he appreciates you. its not a pity party and you should not feel that way we all feel this way at times and its a good thing you came to someone with you cares
2006-10-01 08:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by foxxylesley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like his from the old school, women should be seen but not heard.Sit down and make him hear your views. And as for being perfect no such person exists. Running a home and looking after a young child is hard enough, plus you work and your husabnd should congratulate you more and appreciate the things you are doing which most women wouldnt dream of putting up with. Remind him that u both work and if he helps then perahps both of you can sit on the couch, and communicate more. If this dont happen then i would say dont waste ur life being a servant to someone whom obvioulsly dont respect you love and care Good Luck and Best Wishes
2006-10-01 15:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, is he suppose to work all day then come home and treat you like a princess? Come on. Be glad that he works and take notice of what he does too. Both of you no doubt, do not bother to see just what the other does for the family and for you. You are probably both horribly selfish people who insist upon your own way, yet cry about how the other is the problem.
Marriage is suppose to be where you both watch out for and care for the best interests of the other person. But, dont expect the other to start it for you. If you wont start it, then you prove your selfishness as he proves his. You start doing so and let that be the example.
2006-10-01 15:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same boat you are, except with 2 kids, 3 and 15 mos. It is hell!! Especially not knowing what to do. I've tried telling my husband what is wrong, that I can't do it all myself. But, he doesn't do anything to help. He hardly spends time with the kids, leaving me to watch them. Then I feel guilty about not playing with them in order to do housework that needs to get done. Like make dinner/put away dinner/empty the sink. I've tried the "don't do anything" approach and the house became so disgusting, I'm just starting to catch up on it. I believe the only option is divorce. Especially mine, since he is emotionally abusive towards me. Sorry, enough of my saga. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone out there. Good luck!!!
2006-10-01 16:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kim C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like my aunt. no offense. she married this guy who's domineering, OCD, and a doctor, so he feels that the house is a surgery room, and him being the only doctor makes him the boss of everyone. If someone completly controls your life, then, maybe that like isn't the best life. i know that my aunt is really trying to get out of that marriage, and she knows that her husband starts fights with her, but he knows that because they have kids together, that she's gonna stay with him until the kids grow up. he does the same, goes to work at 7, comes home at 4, and does nothing. my father is a doctor, but he doesn't do that. my uncle is a pansy who has the god complex.
2006-10-01 15:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by starrynite4111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is worse than lingering in a bad marriage year after year after year. The divide between you keeps getting wider, and the few times you feel like you're on the same page aren't worth the cost. If you still feel there is hope left, then tell him you want to go to marriage counselling. If he refuses, then go see someone for yourself. There, you can determine the next step to take. I wish you well!
2006-10-01 15:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs a wake up call. Immediately file for divorce, without letting him know that you are going to, and go for everything you can get; so he will realize in all the ways it will negatively affect his life. The time it takes for the divorce to go through is more than enough time for him to wake up, and change his ways, in which case you simply need not go through with the divorce. Otherwise you will be well on your way to ending a dead relationship, and getting on with your life, while you're still young enough to attract someone easier.
2006-10-01 15:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that it doesn't sound like you need him. You work and do the errands, pay the bills, take care of the child....
What do you need him for?
There are men in this world who would respect and appreciate you.
2006-10-01 15:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
faces these facts, tell him if he dont get his lazy azz up that your leaving him or give him 1 month if it dont work tell him that you going to find somebody new thaa will take care of you.but hes problemly cheating on you check your facts.
2006-10-01 15:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by nikiesha b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts and feel like that than move on but if you think it can be saved and you love him save it because you dont want to regret what you do later
2006-10-01 15:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋