Most people say that most gay men are so hot and so everything, but then I look at myself and I'm like oh ****. Me and my cousin are both 16 and we are gay. He gets all the guys and I get none. It makes me feel so sad inside that I will never find someone that loves me the way his boyfriend loves him. I'm not fat.....I'm not to skinny.....I have nice hair.....I keep myself up, but still I dont get anyone. It seems as though my question would have to be.....Is there anyway I can attract the guys.....(guys that are bottoms cuz I'm a top). Just wondering.....
2006-10-01 07:46:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Creole...whatever...
2006-10-01 07:50:07 · update #1
Damnit....you can't stop being gay..you people act as though it is some type of horrible condition! Your either gay or your not.
This was for the person who said "why dont you stop being gay and try to go with girls" Or some **** like that.
2006-10-01 07:51:59 · update #2
AUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. how about attracting a male therapist?? you are too young to make life-altering decisions like this. maybe a therapist can help you with your issues.
2006-10-01 07:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Ok, what you need to realize is that your concerns are exactly the same across the board for a 16yr old (and older some times). I can promise you that most of your peer group is looking into the mirror and wondering the same thing. Gay or straight, insecurity is the name of the game at age 16.
It will pass, be patient, and don't settle for less than what you want. If you are dominant, then explore that, don't pretend to be a bottom just to get a date, you will not feel right about lying to yourself or to the other person.
In any relationship you need to have something to bring to the table. Get interesting. Find out what you are passionate about and become an expert in it. You will run into people who have the same passion and then you will have something to talk about. Communication is the very beginning and most important component of a good relationship, including a sexual one. If you can't talk about what you want and don't want, what feels good and what doesn't, you will not find satisfaction.
Good luck, I know no one wants to be told be patient, but that's the truth.
2006-10-01 09:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, 16 is a ROUGH age.
First things first... Stop comparing yourself with your cousin. It isn't a competition.
It sounds like you need to work on your confidence a bit. This will help you attract the right kind of young men to you. If you meet someone new (and try to hard) you are going to come accross as needy and turn him off.
Before you are able to truly love someone else, you have to be able to love yourself first. I recognize that this is a bit harder during adolescence because it's normal for teens to judge themselves by how others react to them. Frustrating as it is, you DO eventually grow out of it. :-)
Start by forcusing on the things that you like about yourself BESIDES your physical appearance. Enjoy being proud of those traits and let yourself feel confident. After a while, it will become more of a habit.
2006-10-01 08:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. You just need to be more open with people. At my school, it doesn't matter what you look like or what you have, it only matters if you are sociable. Maybe you should throw yourself out there a little more *without being a man whore* *lol.*
2006-10-01 08:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by dudeboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
CONFIDENCE, that's the only way. You have to feel good about yourself, it will come across to others. Good Luck!
Walk with your head up!
2006-10-01 07:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Vanity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The sexiest thing anyone can have is self-confidence.
2006-10-01 07:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, youll have your time!
2006-10-01 07:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how ya feel. hang in there. it gets better.
2006-10-01 07:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by saru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you should just stop being gay and see if attracting girls will work
2006-10-01 07:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Ooooooooooooooooo ..touchy as well ..that's probably your problem..( touchy )
2006-10-01 08:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋