I'm going to the University of Portland's woman soccer game today and my boyfriend is coming along with my dad sibilings and me. Just a little bit ago my dad turned around and said to make sure that he is paying to himself to get in... My dad is not filthy rich but he's pretty well-off... tickets are like 7 dollars and i just think its rude that he's making him pay for it when he's our guest... he also did this when we went out to lunch one day and made him pay for his own food... i just think its rude to have him do that... my boyfriend can easily afford it but idk i just find it embarrassing that he's being so cheap... what do you think about this?
2006-10-01 07:27:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yeah i cant exactly talk to my dad about it cus it might make things worse... he is out guest and my boyfriend is upset and always feels like he's not wanted around us when my dad does stuff like this... he likes my boyfriend i know that for a fact... my mom is the one who has a problem with him but she still pays for him when he goes out to eat with us and stuff...
2006-10-01 07:33:33 · update #1
Maybe your dad is just making a point to see if your boyfriend is a "moocher". Maybe it's not that your dad is cheap or trying to be rude, maybe he's testing the guy. Depending on how old you are, it's your dad's right to do so. Most dad's look out for their daughter's well being and maybe he wants to make sure he's no leach. If the guy really wants to be with you then he might not mind paying his own way. It has been my experience that Dad won't hesitate to put the boyfriend on the spot a little and if he can't handle the heat then he better find a girl in someone else's kitchen. Dad wants his baby girl to have a good guy, catching my drift?
2006-10-01 07:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's rude. I have to think that there might be something wrong with your boyfriend though because your dad is obviously trying real hard to make him feel like he will not be accepted into your family. Before you are too hard on your dad, you might want to take a step back and see if this is the right guy for you. Dads are usually right when judging boyfriends.
2006-10-01 07:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by gobillybatson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that really does sound pretty rude...but maybe he's just letting him know that he won't be taken advantage of, and won't take free-loaders in and welcome them with open arms. If this guy is going to be around for a while...and your dad keeps being a tight-wad....try talking to him. Tell him it hurts your feelings, because this is a guy that's great for you...and it'd help your relationship if he'd show he's more accepting by letting him be included in things..(i.e.: NOT singling him out and making him pay for every little thing...) It'll help him feel ACCEPTED...not like a tag-along. Hope I've helped. P.S. My dad's a little hard to talk to about certain things, so make a date or go see him casually to bring it up..and wait for the right moment...
2006-10-01 07:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by pwg4077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a bit rude especially if your father is doing the inviting but if you are inviting your boyfriend to come along and your father in not the one doing the inviting then you shouldn't expect your father to front your boyfriend's part all of the time. I don't think $7.00 is a lot either but I guess it is the whole principle behind the matter. Also if your father doesn't care too much for your boyfriend then that could also be the reasoning behind his actions.
2006-10-01 07:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by yomama h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad invited your boyfriend, your dad should pay for his ticket. If you, however, ask your dad if your boyfriend could go, then your boyfriend should pay. The person who does the inviting is the one who should pay, to an event or out to eat. I hope this helps.
2006-10-01 07:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your dad isn't too fond of your boyfriend. I think what your dad is trying to point out to you is that technically your boyfriend is your guest and not his guest. He really doesn't want the kid around but he will tolerate his presence just so that you won't nag him later on.
2006-10-01 07:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I agree...that is rude! Sounds a lot like my father, he has done that to me before. I could see your bf paying his own way had he not been invited, but if he is your dads guest...then dad should pay.
2006-10-01 07:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude. give your dad the seven dollars and ask him to use it to pay your boyfriends way in. be calm, dont act mad, just say you dont want to hurt your bf feelings. if he gets upset with that, he is cheap and it doesnt matter anyway.
2006-10-03 07:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was invited, he shouldn't have to pay. Yeah, I'm sorry to say, but I think it's rude to invite someone to go somewhere with you and make them pay. If he invited himself, that should be a clue that he is prepared to pay. If he was invited by someone, usually they intend on paying. I'm sorry for you, I know it's embarrassing. I would be embarrassed, too.
2006-10-01 07:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its rude. but talk to your dad he may feel insecure that your moving on and your not his little girl anymore and hes not the man in your life anymore. you might have to tell him no matter who you go out with you will always love him no matter what.
2006-10-03 05:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jow H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋