i need everyone to pray for me through this time im going to leave this man of 29 yrs i dont know what will happen to me at a shelter im the one that got spit on and beer thrown all over me last night i feel that if i get out they will keep me in a shelter and i wont ever have a home again we are renting so i cant sell the house i just worry about what will happen to me i got to leave and will in due time i got to get a plan as one of my anwers told to me to do i love a home and at my age 56 i feel that i will be stuck in the shelter for ever if anyone knows what they do to you at the shelter to help with a home please tell me i cant live with all those people forever im a private person and i need a home someone pray for me please and tell me what they will do for me to help im afraid they will turn my life upside down again like it is now and what do they do to help with a divorce? i have a car and furniture and im also raising 2 gr kids and they dont wont to go 14 and 16
2006-10-01 07:20:38 · 7 answers · asked by sassygal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't mention where you live, but there might be a family shelter you can stay in for a while. My husband and I split up for about 7 months almost 10 years ago, and that's where I stayed with my son; he was very young at the time. We had our own room and tons of privacy. The only things we had to share were the bathroom, the living area and the refrigerator with three other families. We all had chores to do, even the little ones, and it was a great experience.
If I had to, I'd only go back to a family shelter. I was afraid like you are, I didn't know what to expect, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I got to know the other familes and their children, and I was fed like you wouldn't believe. Lots of local churches fed us for once a month, gave us clothes and toys; at Christmas, someone dressed up as Santa and gave out toys to the children, we had got special passes where we could spend a night out of the shelter.
The shelter also had rules too.,We had to be in the building at a certain time, the children had to be in bed at a certain time, no foul language, no physical discipline, no theft, no loud music, no visiting in each other's rooms, no sexual relations between residents who were not married to each other. We weren't allowed to speak to the single people who lived there also, but that one was broken all the time.
Check it out before you leave. I'm sorry your marriage is breaking up. You should also check out www.mydivorcestory.com. It's a website started by a woman who comes on here and answers questions, and it's dedicated to women who are going through divorce. Even though I'm not getting a divorce, I joined anyway.
Good luck to you and your children.
2006-10-01 08:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you today. Being that you are married do not leave your home because of the kids. Go to the legal Aid and get representation. They may help you with the divorce and help you to stay in your home. Therefore you will not have to leave although they may make him leave. Going to the shelter is not the answer to our problem. I hope you the best. I will pray that God will provide you your own home.
2006-10-01 16:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just prayed for you.I have been in the shelter before and it's terrible.Do yourself a favor go sign up for HUD and save as much money as you can.Pretend everything is fine and then one day when he is at work pack everything really fast and let him come home to an empty house.The next stop would be court house to obtain a restraining order.Hope everything goes your way.God bless.
2006-10-01 18:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will pray you. Be strong, just get out of that house. People will help you.
2006-10-01 14:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You be strong and do what you feel is right and everything will turn out good in the end.
2006-10-01 16:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by kimgirlscout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am praying for u now
2006-10-01 14:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. I will pray for you.
2006-10-01 14:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋