we have been divorced for a year and both date other people. Her current boyfriend would help but she does not want him to help for fear of obligation to him.
2006-10-01 07:20:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-01 07:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Evie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What part of divorced do you not understand? Hell no I wouldn't help out. She's got a bf, and I don't buy that 'obligation' crap for one damned second. It's a load of hooey.
If there are children involved, then yes, but only to the extent of their belongings. Did she help YOU out when you moved into your new place? If she did, then yes, otherwise no.
Tell her, "I'm glad that you considered me to help out with your move. We've been divorced for a year, and as with your boyfriend, I too do not want you to feel obligated (to me) and I have to decline." And tell her that you just do not feel comfortable doing it.
Just curious, why in the hell is she still calling you up after a year? Cut the ties dude (unless there's children involved).
2006-10-01 16:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she bought you a really nice tool, like a craftman rechargeable drill, and only asked you to do a little bit of work I say sure. Especially if kids are involved. Besides ex spouses does not mean ex friends. Just don't let her take advantage of you and have you do too much work.
If she keeps asking for more make her pony up some sexual favor. That will put a damper on the requests.
2006-10-01 20:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
But you have no obligation to her since you are divorced. If you have children, then, yes, help ready their new home. But, if it's just your ex-wife, you are not obligated to play man of the house for her.
2006-10-01 15:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if we parted on, and remain on, good terms. Been there, twice. As far as the boyfriend obligation, offer pizza and beer and call that even, would be better if you had another friend or two to help also for the same pizza and beer.
2006-10-02 13:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you or your ex and the situation could be different for every set of circumstances. Was she a beoootch when you were married....take that into consideration, or was she a loving, wonderful woman and you just had problems with compatibility.
My guess is she is sweet, warm and a good cook. I would make sure you got at the very least a good home cooked meal of your choice, a back rub/massage, and a new set of tools.....get something for your hard work. If your asking me, sure ...go for it!
2006-10-01 21:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sanitizer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should only help IF there are children involved! Other than that, LET her start making demands on her current boyfriend. He's in the picture now, you shouldn't be.
Have you asked your current girlfriend if it would bother her? That's what you should be concerned with, is her, NOT the EX!!
Good Luck
2006-10-01 14:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, i helped my ex buy a house, with a settlement from a car accident I had. She continually takes me to court for cusotdy of our son, but she is the mother of my child and for that fact and only that fact and in that capacity do I cherish her and help her as much as possible. So, yes help her, help her get things ready, carry things in, hold them for what seems hours while she decides where it should go. Just do it!
2006-10-01 21:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by obitdude2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is strictly an issue between the two of you.
You are moving your children as well and that should be no contest.
If you do not wish to do it for her, then at least do it for your children.
For you even to ask this question still shows that you harbor some resentment, or am I wrong?
2006-10-02 09:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say help the child out! I mean you say that once you were married right? I (I mean..HE) says he would help her but really ~ He don't want to miss the game! This week could be crucial in who is gonna dominate in the play-offs later down the road...so to recap ~ Take pity on the girl AND do the right thing!
(i'm kinda busy) .......
2006-10-01 23:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by DR. HARPOâ⢠5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If children are involved yes for sure becuase you can see that htey are going ot a safe environment. If nokids it depends on your relationship. I wouldn't be cleaning anything, help move some boxes in another thing.
2006-10-01 14:58:07 · answer #11 · answered by Sandra C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋