FOR more than 9 yrs. but he is waiting till his younest child to turn 18 to divorce the wife do you think I have a chance his yongest is 9 yrs old. he dose not live with nor talk to his wife
he helps out with expensive he has a full time job but am just curious to know if it's possible that he will leave his wife sooner? or should i just move on?
once again they have been seperated for nine yrs no living together they don't even speak he only speaks to the kids (there 3 of them) 19yrs, 14yrs and a 9 yr old what ya'll think yahoo?
2006-10-01 07:17:23 · 11 answers · asked by Missunderstood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No sweetie you need to move on. He's just playing with you especially if you are a bit younger. If he is separated from his wife and not living with her than there is no reason for him to have to wait until the youngest child turns 18.Child support is docked from someone whether they are legally divorced or separated.You need to let him really think about what he wants on his own and feel the void when you are gone and not letting him toy with you.Its one thing to stay married for the sake of the kids but live in the same house, so that the kids see a "family" still. But what is he accomplishing by not living with kids, not talking to ex-wife and not getting a divorce. What he is probably doing is just leaving the possibility of being able to go back and forth with his ex and you or whom ever he has at the time. Be very careful, make sure to get tested (HIV,STDS) be careful, be safe. Check out all the questions people have posted about not being able to move on from their ex's, especially the ones that have children together. Save yourself from a lot of heartache. good luck to you
2006-10-01 07:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Nikie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Staying married for the sake of the children is a very poor reason to stay married. At 9, 14 and 19 years old your children are old enough to understand that mom and dad can't live together anymore. You should file for the divorce, work out a visitation plan (which you've already done, obviously), pay child support and move on with your life. Would you rather teach your children to be miserable in a loveless marriage, or teach them that some times people do make mistakes but you can live with those mistakes and make your life better? Your choice.
2006-10-01 07:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kinda odd but maybe it has something to do with benefits or insurance or something along those lines for the kids. If they really havent talked or gotten back together in the past nine years and his plan has gone along like he wants it to then I dont see a big problem. He will have to decide on his own if he wants to end this earlier.
I wouldnt bother him about it. There is obviously a reason behind it other than him yearning to be with his ex.
2006-10-01 07:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to move on the children are used as excuses no to make a commitment to you
remember he is not pretending that he love is wife as you say he is not speaking to her and the children know so why does he need to wait untilthe youngest turn 18
2006-10-01 07:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on
2006-10-01 07:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by red334chip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, you're asking for trouble with this guy. Give it up and move on.
2006-10-01 07:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by answer annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a man with benefits,wait it out.I know someone who did that when their child turned 18.
2006-10-01 07:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT IS A BIG GAMBLE TO TIE YOURSELF UP FOR 9 YEARS!
2006-10-01 07:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will never move out, all married men will tell you this
2006-10-01 07:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away, very fast.....if he wants to stay married then he is married...regardless of the situation.
2006-10-01 07:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by treasureisland85 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋