Hi, i spilt up with an ex girlfriend whom i now have a 9 yo son with, but i have started thinking recently he isnt mine. we got back together when she was 5 months pregnant and split again when the boy was 3. you see the thing is the boy doesnt look like me or my ex but he does look like one of my ex's male friends! what should i do, as i am paying maintenance for him and he may not be mine? should i get a dna test? if so where do i start looking for one?
2006-10-01 06:59:18 · 12 answers · asked by bezzelbop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes i do love him, but we have never been close in a father son sense, i see him once every 2 weeks and he doesnt call me daddy!
I think this is due to my ex's belief that he isn't mine, as she was the one to put the doubt in my head in the first place!
2006-10-01 07:06:41 · update #1
You should get a DNA test if you have doubts. But if you have been the dad to this boy for 9 years, could you really turn your back on him? Even if you're not the biological dad, you still raised him.
2006-10-01 07:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To make this easier on your own heart, YES a paternity test should be done. Ask your doctor on how to obtain one, or your local courts. You'd think you'd beable to get one eaisly if "she" allows you alone time with the boy, and do it without even her knowledge.
IF you continue thinking this boy isn't yours, all it will do is cause heartach for you and the boy.
IF you find out he's not yours, I think it would be best to at least let this small child know you still love him.
It isn't right that your paying maintance if he's NOT yours.
Go get the test.
2006-10-01 14:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate you really need to get a dna test call a local hospital or something ask a doctor , Really you should of done that in the first place knowing that id sue her if possible to get ya money back if possible ,.
2006-10-01 14:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this is a twofold question??? anyhow here goes first of all go tell your doctor you want a DNA test done and tell him why... He should be able to help you get this part taken care of..
Now second my concern is for the child does he think of oyu as his father? if so what are you going to tell him? When you find out that you are not his dad if thats the case? please if he loves oyu like a dad stay in his life all children need to know they are not being abandoned because of biology... Hope this helps
2006-10-01 14:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Birgit K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if you are really concerned that he isnt your child get a dna test done, if you look it up on the internet type in DNA Paternity testing, i'm not sure how much it costs but i'm sure it will be worth it for you!
Good Luck XxX
2006-10-01 14:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by eiramannej 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paternity DNA testing is quite easy and surprisingly affordable. Go to http://www.affiliatedgenetics.com/paternity.cfm for more information. You can have the test performed with a simple mouth swab.
2006-10-01 14:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get a DNA test. Ask a Dr. how it is done.
2006-10-01 14:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer to petition the court to order a DNA test.The lawyer will tell you everything you have to do and where to go
2006-10-01 14:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by storyteller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go take a paternity test to see if it's your child and take your male friend too.Go to ask.com and find out.
2006-10-01 14:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rich Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try the Maury show. He is always trying to find the real father of the kids on his show.
2006-10-01 14:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋