Let's say you cheated on your wife. She found out, but you want to make your marriage work. If your wife demands you call the other woman and tell her it's over, would you? Or would you tell your wife that you don't need to do that to prove anything to her..your word should be good enough?
To top that off, would you expect your wife to have sex with you a month after learning of the affair(s)? Especially UNPROTECTED??
2006-10-01 06:58:00 · 15 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youre very lucky that all she wants you to do is call and tell her. Your word is about as worthless as mud. You gave your word at your wedding to be faithful til death do you part, remember? You broke your word and now you want her to trust your word after an affair. Come on, lets get real here. Youre going to prove to her for a very long time to regain her trust in you. Youre just lucky she doesnt sue you for divorce and everything shes legally entitled to. Forget the sex for awhile, maybe by the year 2010 if youre real good.. It just amazes me how stupid men really are, men cheat like its nothing and expect total forgiveness like it never happened, and expect everything should be like it was before the affair. What are we thinking? If she keeps you,then consider yourself one of the few luckiest men in the world. Look at all the questions on here about men and affairs and then thank God for the woman you got.
2006-10-01 07:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for twenty years and except for an episode with two large breasts at a bar {to much to drink on emprt stomach} I have been faithful.An affair would never be worth taking a chance on losing my life partner.The secret to my success is not put my self in a position where something might happen.I do a lot of daydreaming about other girls and play on the internet with a lot of girls with my wifes knowledge. Id make the call in a minute and tell my wife I was a jerk and hope for forgiveness.Id give her all the time she needed.And if she felt like she needed to get even.Id be ok with that.Just dont want to lose her. I am sorry you are put in this position.Good Luck i mean that
2006-10-01 07:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets say that,i would not make a phone call,i would set up a meeting so my wife could see and talk to her, then tell the other woman that it's over.But i would not think of trying to have sex with my wife until i got myself tested and she got the results back.Now after all that the two of us need to find out why i had to cheat in the first place,and then solve that problem if we really want the marriage to work.Now if she refuses the have sex with me i would waste no time leaving and moving on.
2006-10-01 07:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I would NEVER cheat....but if I did....and I was still on this side of the dirt after my wife found out....and she was willing to take me back....I would do ANYTHING she asked me to. I dont think your husband knows how LUCKY he is to have you as a wife. And NO I would NOT expect sex for a Loooong time
2006-10-01 07:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes her wife, I think he will call her gf and tell her that its over. And they can live happily ever after.
But if he doesn't, then his wife shouldn't stick around. Also, the other advantage in doing so it might bring back her lost husband and make him relize that he cannot live without her wife.
But if he lets her wife go, then the wife cannot do much about it as he never loved her anyways....
2006-10-01 07:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Amit D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I truly was sorry and realized my mistake and wanted it to work with my wife, I would do anything she asked. If that meant calling the other girl to tell her it's over then no problem. Getting checked by a doctor for STDs....no problem. Whatever she wants..... I would just be thankful that she has a big heart and is willing to forgive me.
Your husband is really dumb....considering what the alternative is....
Good luck and I commend you.
2006-10-01 07:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make the call if she insisted but if she had sex a month after learning of the affair...
That would be the end of the marriage...
2006-10-01 07:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I cheated and the only way to get my wife back would be to call the other woman and break it off....I would do just that.
As for the sex, I think I would consent to having bloodwork done to confirm I didn't not have any sexually transmitted diseases and give her the results before I even seen them.
2006-10-01 07:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by tjjone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What i can say is that in the age of Aids and all sorts of sickness out there. You listen to your gut feelings and do what is Right for you. I for sure would not have sex with any woman that cheated on me.
2006-10-01 08:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously his word isn't good enough or he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
use a condom for four months at least because HIV/AIDS takes three months to show up in blood tests.
You probably should leave him, unless the cheating happened during a time of great stress.
2006-10-01 08:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋