I would love to have children.
I took care of my sisters and brothers when they were little
and I baby-sit a lot.I just love children so I would like to have one of my own.
And I would like to have atleast 4 children.
Do you think it is wrong for me to think so?
And is it possible for me to find someone who would share the same opinion?
2006-10-01 06:44:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're all being mean,really.
It isn't that I don't want children but after I heard your opnions I don't think I want to raise them in a world with the likes of you!
Except some people who were kind here ofcourse.
2006-10-01 06:56:11 · update #1
I love children alright?
But I wont have them now.
Yes I'll wait untill I finish school,achieve my goals etc.
I thought about it for a few seconds(about how would it be to have children at my age)
and wondered about other's opinions.
Some of your answers shocked me and
gave me a lot to think about (not about babies but about people).
When I have career I'll have plenty of babies,untill then I'll devote myself to my studies.
But there are some people who really disapointed me and I hope that I wont have to meet them,ever.
As for other,thank you!
2006-10-01 07:16:00 · update #2
Oh God!
I've already said that I'll wait and for your information I am mature,more than you can think,I really took care of my brothers and a sister and I'm an excellent student at school.My parents travel a lot and therefore we have to take care of each other.
I'm the oldest so I'm the most responsible.
People are so rude nowadays...
2006-10-01 07:48:31 · update #3
Why does nobody read my additional
comments?
I give up...
2006-10-01 11:16:11 · update #4
hello im liz and a mother of 6 loving wonderfull children:::21,20,18,16,14 and a little angel of 3 who was a wee surprise...i looked at the other answers so im not going to preach to you for you will go and do what u think is right anyway reguardless of the answers on here but a wee bit of advice...................
take a good look at your life what you do where you go and how you make your living and where you live then pretend you have a baby.......go where you go and do what u normally do and just see if you had a wee baby there with you changing bag pram bottles need heated dummy must always be sterile if you drop it u need spare ones.then go and have a lovely bath for an hour all to yourself.....baby cries no long bath someone lets u down babysittin...well il not bore you with all the details but having 6 kids all after eachother cause i was an only lonley child...at 16 and every 9 months or so after that.....then wondering where my life went.....looking at your question brought me to earth with a nasty bang as i wondered..................shes lucky to have the choice and i hope you really have a good life weather you get your baby or not.....all the best liz.....xp.s. 5 girls and 1 boy.....please be careful.....
2006-10-01 09:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are to young to have children at the moment, not only would you lose a lot of your childhood, what sort of life could you provide for your children at this age. As you probably live at home and don't have a job so you couldn't support them or give them what they need. When you want children don't you want them to have two loving parent a nice home and to never want for nothing? Have you life, finish your education and find a nice bloke then think about children. If you love children so much why don't you consider working with children either in a nurse or school or a nurse at a children's hospital, that way you can work with children which is what you love and you can still enjoy your childhood and teenage years while you get your life ready for children when your older!
I'm sure you'll be able to find a man out there who wants the same as you and you will make fantastic parents one day!
2006-10-01 09:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really cool that you love children so much and want to have a family of your own. There is no rush however, think about what you chidren will need and the growing costs of having a family, also think about what you would like to provide for your children apart from all the love and nurturing you are capeable of. A few years of planning for your family would really come in handy... such as some job planning for a good job because things happen and you could end up a single parent. It would also be a good chance to do a lot of things you won't have much opportunity to do after starting a family such as travelling, nights out to the movies or whatever, going on dates and even having along time.
Good luck with you future family when the time comes!
2006-10-01 06:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too young to have children, but a child is a major responsibility that will change your life forever, and in ways you may not have yet considered. There are plenty of mothers out there that have had children at a young age, by choice or by accident, and many of them regret having done so.
Where will you live? How will you support your child? Who will watch it while you are working, out on the town, or in school? And what if the answers to those questions were suddenly to change? What if you lost the support of those you though would help out, or jump in to save you financially, if unexpected expenses happen? What type of a life would your child experience if this happens, and how much love will you be able to show, if stressed out by all the negative things that could happen in life?
There are many things to consider, when deciding to have a child, beyond just what you want at the moment. You need to consider all of the ramifications of what could be, as well, for both your happiness and the happiness of the child.
2006-10-01 07:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you want a baby, but I think at your age it would be a big mistake. When I was your age I was exactly the same but fortunatly for me I didn't end up with a baby. Now I run my own business and I can buy whatever I want and visit fabulous places. I feel happy and may have kids one day but if I don't then that's ok. I don't need to make another person for me to feel complete. Having a career is so much better and besides wouldn't you like to be able to be fianancially stable and live your own life first before having kids. If you have a child and then you regret it well you can't take it back can you? Besides what is the harm in waiting. Please don't become another statistic when you could be so much more.
2006-10-01 08:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're still a child yourself love. Babies aren't like dolls, they can cry constantly and that is hell if you've had days like that, and no sleep. You would not be able to go out and enjoy yourself as kids are with you 24/7. They cost hundreds of ££££, and how on earth would you support a child? That wouldn't be fair on the child, and I'm sure if you love children as much as you say you do, you wouldn't want to put a child through hard times. Live a bit more yourself before thinking of having your own kids. Get a good job so you have money behind you to support a child and give it the life it "should" have. If you love kids that much, get involved with a nursery or playgroup as this will give you "lots" of experience.
*** Read your updated comments love, you are not helping yourself, as you are coming back with childish comments because people are speaking their minds. This is showing people that you are not mature enough to handle critiism let alone raise a child*** Go help out in that Nursery
2006-10-01 07:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay ill start off being boring....
you should wait until your older until you finish your education and get a job... blah blah blah
And im not saying it in a way that you should ignore that, because that is completely relevant and that you do these things... okay now this is what i say!!!
I'm broody all the time! and i'm the same age! Its not wrong to THINK it, because im experiencing the same so i know exactly what your feeling.
Of course people are gunna argue with me there... but thats their own opinion, this is MINE
Dream girl dream! Nothing wrong with that NOTHING, i guess you could say its... planning ahead? But also, don't get your hopes up! unfortunately life isnt as simple anymore, noone wants kids now and the population is too high and stuff... *sighs* but theres always a guy whos willing to make a family with you. I know it!!!
Dreams CAN come true, when you least expect it =)
2006-10-01 07:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've wanted a baby since i was 15 yrs and i have evrything planned but i couldn't find a guy who would stick by me. But you have your whole life to live i'm 17 yrs only a year older and i have a fiance and my own place too. I'm waiting to get married first and make sure there are brought into the world to 2 parents who are gonna spend the rest of there lives together and in love in 50 yrs after the birth.
Hunnie, Please wait and it if you had them before you could afford to bring them up then you may end up living off the government for the next 18 years. So think about it because you will be living off the rest of us that pay enough taxes as it is. YOU WILL BE LIVING OFF OUR TAXES.
But wait sort your life out like i am and then you will see why we all have given these opinions.
You will understand when you pay taxes trust me.
Goodluck..............
2006-10-01 07:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to think that at the moment, you've got nothing to offer a child. Children need so much more than "just love". They need a decent home, stability and a mother who is educated enough to teach them to reach their goals.
So, why don't you make childcare your goal. Perhaps nursing in a hospital or working with children in some ways. If you're a teacher - the best job ever for holidays - you'll be able to spend all those holidays with your children while you have access to education and a good income.
Don't forget too, that every child needs two parents. I'm glad you want children - but remember, you wouldn't want to be born to a 16 year old who has nothing to offer.
2006-10-01 06:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, after reading your additional comments i think you ought to grow up and start acting and thinking like a 16 year old. considering the question you've justed posed here therefore, what type of response did you really expect? not everyone was going to agree with you and at 16 years old is too young to contemplate being a mother. if you were 16 and was pregnant already, then perhaps i would've had symphathy for you. you're still a child and technically still legally under age, you have your whole life ahead of you. motherhood is something to consider later on in your late 20s and early 30s but not now- not at 16.
i suggest you get yourself an education, finish your GCSEs, go to college, earn a living if you must and enjoy being a teenager.
2006-10-01 07:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋