Even though we have the gift to have children doesn't mean we should. Kids are cool but the way the world is along with the divorce rate, who wants to bring kids into that? Maybe you are trying to fill a void by having babies. (This does not apply to you supermoms, so please no lectures.)
2006-10-01 06:39:31 · 17 answers · asked by l'il mama 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It's not selfish to not want to have children....You can live a fulfilling life without being a mother....children do not define u...I have a daughter and I love her to death and she brings me soo much joy to life...but i know that i am not only a mother, i am a woman, I am a wife, and i had dreams before i had children. I am many things and so are u. It would only be selfish to to have a child because you felt u had to...Woman power....with it u can do anything that is right for u ...
2006-10-01 13:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by coopchic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love children. I chose not to have any though. Many of my friends were very surprised by this thinking I would be a perfect mother. However, I just never saw myself as a mother. It was a choice. I chose a career and education. No regrets. My brother have beautiful children and I get much happiness lavishing them with love and being a good aunt. There will always be enough children to love even if they are not your own.
2006-10-01 11:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Our population, over the last hundred years, has grown rapidly (Ever since oil became introduced as an energy source).
If sex were soley for the purpose of procreation, then we would have the technology to create life in a petri dish.
Life isn't about procreation. Nor should we feel it has to be.
Just because there are women who don't have kids doesn't mean they are selfish....I think you are being too hard on yourself. Women were not put on this earth to be baby machines to help human kind multiply.
People's ideologies of death and their fear of the human race being wiped out keeps women locked in this guilty frame of mind of beating their so-called biological clocks. Almost as if it's somehow our responsibility for keep the human race alive....well, it's not. (People need to try to get over their fear of death so they can start getting over their fear of loss of life.
The population isn't dwindling down.
I think, as a whole, if we wish to stay on this planet then we should be more concerned about what all these people on the planet (9-10 billion) is doing to it. Is it any wonder why there are so many diseases without a cure. Nature is trying to find a balance and we keep fighting it.
If we keep going on the way we are going, don't be surprised if a plague happens, the trees rot and die from swarms of insect infestion (which is presently happening at an alarming rate) or another incurable disease comes along to try and even out the population.
Will we fight it and wipe ourselves out in the process or will we give in and try to keep humanity alive?
2006-10-01 07:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria R 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I myself am a mother of four beautiful children.I love being a mom and caring for my children and now being a grandmother to one. This is what I chose for my life. However, I don't think that if a woman chooses not to become a mother it makes her a terrible or even a selfish person. Being a mother doesn't make you who you are. And certainly, doesn't make you a woman. I feel it is a very personal choice. And should be respected as such.
2006-10-01 08:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have a younger sister who has no interest in having children. She does not want to bring another human on the planet. She actually doesn't even like kids. I respect that.
2006-10-01 06:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by The Garage Dude 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
i've never wanted kids, and it's nothing to do with selfishness. it's a personal choice. and a lot of people have kids for all the wrong reasons; because they don't want to be lonely, or they think it'll fix a bad relationship/marriage, etc.
2006-10-01 08:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why is not having kids selfish. You reasons reflect a concern about raising a child in conditions you believe will adversely affect them. I personally commend you. That seems like responsibility to me, not selfishness. If being a parent is not something you ( generally speaking) want to do, then don't do it.
2006-10-01 06:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by elliott 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I've honestly considered not having children. I'm not sure if I can handle it, but maybe that's just because I'm young (20). Who knows, perhaps it'll grow on me, but right now, I'm not sure I have the will/capabilities to cope with having a baby.
2006-10-01 06:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dana ♪ 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Whats selfish about not wanting children, I for one chose not to, but that doesn`t make me selfish. I have plenty of nieces and nephews to fill that gap. I buy for them, my husband and I take them places and they are free to come and go to our home as they please. My husband and I both work at rather stress filled jobs, so having our own children would not be a benefit to their welfare. Still we are surrounded by children, so we`re not deprived of those joys, but they go home at the end of day.
2006-10-01 07:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by flamingo 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I love kids, but at the same time i don't want any. I use to work with kids so I know how annoying they can be sometimes. Also, with all that things that can go wrong during pregnancy and delievery, i'm definitely not sure if i want any kids...
2006-10-01 06:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by chikeymonky 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋