2006-10-01 06:34:02 · 52 answers · asked by twiggy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They don't.
2006-10-01 06:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called commitment. Something that seems to be rare these days. The people who stay married (my wife's parents were married for 55 years) take their wedding vows seriously and stick together through thick and thin. I think people get married too fast these days and get married for the wrong reasons. So many people get cought up in the big wedding thing and forget the real reason they're getting married. Commitment isn't easy buit it's necessary for a good marriage or relationship.
2006-10-01 06:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to be good friends first, then get to the point where they are all you can think about, then get married, then work on joining spiritually and sexually. It's important to put your partner's needs before your own, don't change after the wedding, and don't try to change them either. Be understanding and respectful and make sure your goals are achievable, not set up to fail. Its a complicated thing. We have been married 10 years and have so far survived 2 kids, 3 deaths (parents) numerous house moves, 1 move away from home town, 1 affair, and one of us finding Jesus. If we can still be together after all that then I think we have something worth keeping
2006-10-01 07:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by good tree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you must marry the person for the right reasons. By that I mean not because they are good looking, have a great body, and the sex is great....although that is also good lol....but because you not only love and respect this person but they are your friend. By friend I mean you honestly feel that you can talk to this person about ANYTHING. I have been married 15 years now and I still know that no matter what happens I can talk to my wife....and even though we don't always see eye to eye we can always work things out....as friends do. Love is a great thing....but if you cannot say that your partner is your friend....you are going to have a tough go of it.
2006-10-01 06:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They choose the right person not someone they think they can mold into the right person.
They choose someone they can be totally themselves with. Wear no make up in front of them and still be loved.
You think carefully about what you can not accept in a spouse and if you accept something about them, that's not ideal, you have to be prepared not complain about that thing later.
Make sure your partner loves you as much as you love them! Insure they respect you and have a simular veiw of life.
Check out their friends and family. Are they the type of people you want to spend a lifetime with?
Date them and watch their reactions to many situations. Are you comfortable with them? Do you feelsafe in their company?
Once married ignore the little things. Shavings in the sink, toilet seats up. Be kind and work at your relationship by spending time together.
That's what I did! I am very happily married with two lovely children.
2006-10-01 08:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nicola H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hard core truth & fact is marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH. Lifetime is so long. The people who are so brave to keep their lifetime commitment with their ordained spouse God gave them to have in the first place, they are the true winners because they don't give up on anything in life.If you don't take a stand for something , you will fell for everything. LIKE THEY SAY YOU QUIT SOMETHING THAN YOU QUIT EVERYTHING ELSE !!! A vow is a vow. God takes any vows seriously so all of us should do the same. The bible says it is better not to make a vow , then to make one and break it. People could care less of their marriage vows , their lifetime commitment to their ordained spouse and take the coward's way out by getting a divorce. Now about the divorce because of being beat , or the kids being beat , this is hardness of heart , you can divorce him or her but YOU CAN'T EVER REMARRY TILL HE OR SHE DIES , THESE ARE NOT MY WORDS, BUT GOD'S !!!
2006-10-01 07:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love each other and don't listen to any advice from other people!
I got married six months ago and a friends who has been married 25 years and was the same age when she got married told be that's the best advice she has ever been given.
I don't talk to anyone other than my Husband about any issues we have, I think it makes things hard for your friends and family if they know you have issues to not side with someone.
2006-10-01 07:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by lubbi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! the key to a long marriage is communication. always tell your partner what you want and be ready to hear her's....most importantly, have sex often and make sure you do your best to see smiles on her face after each sex period, dont let your work or child get more atention than your partner, not just trust, trust and make your partner know you trust him/her....the major thing that may sound like minor is....sex him/her up always as it was the first day or even changing to better.....f*uck is for married people so dont be shy to ask for difference styles or to give them. Think of new thing to surprise he/r as much as you can. make love in the kitchen even if the food on the burner is getting burned make sure your partner is done before the food, sex around the house anywhere you get hooked dont wait till you get to the bedroom.etc.
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2016-02-11 11:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi , well for a marriage to last for many years ,sometimes they just really love each other, remember everyone have there different ways , they just compromised on a lot of things ,No marriage is perfect , they just have decided to be with each other, and when children are involved , that has a lot to do with it , (not always )but most of the time. and other times there marriage is just for conveniences , when a couple gets married , as the judge would say( FOR BETTER OR WORSE) that is exactly what it means.
good luck
leena
2006-10-01 07:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by leena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some people get married for the wrong reasons, there has to be give and take in a marriage. You should talk, and never let things go unresolved. I love my hubby very much, and look forward to growing old with him!
2006-10-02 00:42:03 · answer #11 · answered by blonde'n'proud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋