Ok.. My boyfriend and i have been going off and on and two nights ago he dumped me and said he loved me and that he was sorry and then last night i tryed to get him back and he said he wasnt realdy....i love him so much but i dont know what to do. so plz tell me what to do cause i dont know anymore
2006-10-01 06:20:38 · 15 answers · asked by Baby Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, so I would just back off and let him come to you when he is ready. If he doesn't then move on, he is not the only man in the world so I wouldn't dwell on it too much.
2006-10-01 06:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Simmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here is my advise,but you are your own person so only you can take it or leave it.If I were you I would tell him that it is over and stay away from him for a while like a month or two,no matter how much he begs or anything don't take him back then if after a month or two if he still wants you back then make him prove it to you,I always heard that absense makes the heart grow stronger,but If it was me I would probably go ahead and dump him for good there are always other fish in the sea.good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-10-01 13:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation honey.. Trust me, it isn't easy. This is a natural feeling when you experience a loss. You immediately want it back. If he truly loves you he knows what you are worth. He might give you some space, but he needs time to figure out what it is that he wants. You should take the time he gives you to focus on your own needs and why you are so fixated on having a relationship. You need to look long and hard at codependency. He doesn't want to hurt you and I am pretty sure he does love you, he just has to be sure.. or else resentment and guilt will set in and he will become a huge pain in the ***....
2006-10-02 16:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by bigbird31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try for someone else cuz if the two of you have been together on and off it isnt a case of love it is a case of you cant see each other with someone else....i think you would be better off going for a new guy cuz see i was with a guy for a little over 2 years and we split up and i wanted him back so bad but he went for a really big girl so i moved on and i am much happier now....good luck in your decision!!!!
2006-10-01 13:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by little_angel63384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and move on with your life. If he isn't ready, or the situation was reversed, you shouldn't try to force the relationship to happen. That can lead to unresolved issues resurfacing, resentment and ultimately ruining something that could be special later on. From personal experience, if the person isn't ready, don't rush them or you may push them away for good. Go on with your life and it will get easier. You don't necessarily have to date right away, take your time and things will work out. It always has to get worse or it will never get better.
2006-10-01 13:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him "so much" then you need to let him go.
You may love your boyfriend, but he may not feel the same about you. You need to let him breathe and not assume that you two were "meant to be." It's going to be hard, but get out and be iwth your friends. Go to a movie, go shopping, just get out of the house.
Don't mope around whining about what you don't have.
Would you rather he be happy or with you?
2006-10-01 13:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying about the butterfly.......if you love it, let it go - then if it wants to, it will come back to you. The moral of the story, my love, is that you cannot MAKE someone truly love you. Let him go, let him figure out how wonderful you are - if he can't figure that out, then he is not the right guy for you.
Releasingly,
RT
2006-10-01 13:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by RT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just give him a break, tell him okay i'll give you your time but I still love you and care for you. That's what I did to my ex six months ago, and now we are trying to work out our relationship but we're friends.
2006-10-01 13:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go...
In time, he will come crawling back to you as all guys will do (for a booty call.)
Still avoiding the temptation and let him go.
You deserve more!
2006-10-01 13:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. You'll find better guys for you out there. There is always someone for everyone.
2006-10-01 13:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by katiecakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋