My ex sister- inlaw moved here last year along with her daughter and has allowed her 19 year old daughter's bf to move in with them. My sisterinlaw has her own man, so here's a foursome living together as one big happy family. Everyone in the family has told her this was a mistake and she has hid this from her parents and sister. Her daughter made a threat to say if he can live with me, then I am staying in NJ....i would have left her there personally.
She charges him rent, which I think is stupid for that he could find a place of his own he is 23 years old. Now she is complaining that he is trying to drive a wedge between her and her daughter which I think its just her own insecurities because she won't let her daughter grown up. she cooks and cleans for these adults and complains about it. Her daughter doesn't do anything to help her self, she will work and go to school, but her mom foots all the bills and complains about it. My sister-inlaw bf can't say anything about it.
2006-10-01 06:16:58 · 12 answers · asked by sally b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she is always complaining to me about this and I am tired of hearing it, do something about it.
2006-10-01 06:21:34 · update #1
No it's not ok.
She shouldn't have ever let that happen. If he is paying her rent then he needs to get his own place and if her daughter wants to move in with her bf then she needs to do that.
I would never allow that type of behavior in my house. I've seen it happen before and it always ends in tragedy.
She needs to give them a certain amount of time for them to find their own place.
They are both adults and they need their own place.
2006-10-01 06:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand that she's charging them rent, because no one stays in a house for free. If you're not going to pay at least one of the bills, I think it's right that she's charging them for rent. She didn't make a mistake by letting her daughter boyfriend move in with her, her daughter is damn near grown, she can make her own decision. I think that her daughter and her daughter boyfriend should stay there to get things on track, then whenever they have a plan like saving money, having a good paying job, or probably going to school, they should move out.
2006-10-01 06:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess? Sounds like a number of people need to grow up in that house.
To answer your question, which by the way you already know the answer to, NO!, it is not ok for a mother to permit her daughter to have a live-in in her house. But, hey, the mother is doing the same thing. If she's pleased to cater to her daughter and her boyfriend, who are we to say anything. We should mind our own business.
2006-10-01 08:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are good friends, then talk to her and come up with a plan to get the daughter and bf out on there own.
2006-10-01 06:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would kick both of them out! if they didnt help mpay the bills and they were that old then they wouldnt be living under my roof! but i just dont think that is right for them to live there and not help pay part of the bills!
2006-10-01 06:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by he_done_me_wrong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of it. It's not your house or your life. I'm not trying to be rude but it's the truth.
2006-10-01 06:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for them to be put in the road.
2006-10-01 06:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them to keep the noise down...
2006-10-01 06:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your sister. It is her house, she has made her bed, let her lye in it.
2006-10-01 06:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so just stay clear of the situation.
2006-10-01 06:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋