My friend keeps telling me she wants to kill herself. Shes 18 and this is her first yr in college. I think shes having trouble adjusting and has alot going on in her life. She told me last night she took 5 pills of something but it just made her sick. what can i say to her to make her not want to kill herself. i want to call her family but they cahnged their phone number i dont know what to do help!
2006-10-01 06:05:05 · 18 answers · asked by incubabe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thank you so much Laura Renee, iam sorry about your 2 children
2006-10-01 06:35:29 · update #1
Your friend does need help, but it's not the kind of help you can provide and she is being selfish to tell you these things and make you worry so much. If she really wanted to die, she would kill herself (and it wouldn't be your fault). She has some problems that need tending to and only she can decide to work herself through them rather than feel overwhelmed and helpless and sorry for herself. You're getting yourself caught up in her drama and if you don't distance yourself from it, you will drive yourself crazy with worry. Try to help her focus on the issues that are overwhelming her and encourage her to think of ways to resolve those issues rather than listen to her self sorrow act. Hard times are small phases in a long lifetime. They don't last forever, and we do gain good things through the hard times, such as wisdom and a better appreciation for the good times. You can remind her of that. Let her know that you are her friend and will help her in any way you can, but If she continues to want to wallow in self pity rather than resolve her issues, there is not much you can do except perhaps spare yourself the drama and tell her to get some sleep and to call you when she feels better. Really, what else can you do?
2006-10-01 06:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being there and listening is a start. Don't judge her or try to lift her spirits. To be honest if she really wanted to kill her self she would have done it. No question about it. But saying ot you that she wants to is a cry for help or a need for attention either way it is not something to take lightly. First off if she is serious and really wants to end her life then you need to get help right away. Call a crisis center and inform your college of the situtation. Most freshman college students feel this way becasue of the changes that are happening and the stress with classes and being away from home. Every college has some sort of help hotline. Inform her dorm advisor and her other friends. Make sure she is not left alone and seek help. You don't have to do this alone. And neither does she. Seek help and not matter how much she says she doesn't want it or gets pissed at you for doing it .. She needs professional help ..
2006-10-01 06:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how it feels to want to die I been in wheelchair all my life and was very depressed and I thought suicide was the best way to leave this cold hearted world,then a few months ago I got a wakeup call from GOD after recieving news that my little cousin hung himself. If you attend a church talk to your pastor and he will lead you into the right direction or trying find another source to getting the number or address to her parents or other siblings. but never hold off of getting that information cause if you do you never know if she would tryin to it again. If so it could be to late the next time.sounds like she is under alot of pressure,misunderstood and doesnt want to die but that is her only means of outlet.but you can prove her wrong let her know she has a purpose in life and that through GOD all things are possible.
2006-10-01 06:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by KayKay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her to get admitted to a psych ward for treatment. The magic words are "I'm suicidal and have a plan." This will guarantee access to treatment in all the states (for a short time, 5 days is typical with outpatient treatment afterwards). I go to a psych ward whenever I feel suicidal, and the therapy and medication help a lot. She may not recognize that she has a depressive disorder. She needs TLC.
2006-10-01 06:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to stay close to her.don't let her be alone cause she will try again.i think she desperate but life is so beautiful so u have to tell her that it doesn't make any sense to take away her life cause for this there's no reason.make her understeand that she have so many reason to live don't let her down not now.and please try to contact her familly.ok?anyway all she needs now its rest and a friend i mean best friend hwo can understeand her.ask her why she would do such a thing like this.than try to calm her somehow,i dont know by for her what she likes to eat.she will be just fine.show her that u care about her and tell her this.ok?good luck
2006-10-01 06:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? She is crying for help and although she isn't consciously aware, somewhere someplace she knows you are a true friend and she knows that if help doesn't come from you than it wont ever come from anyone.
DO WHAT EVER IT TAKES..
PROVE TO HER SHE IS WORTH IT!
risking your friendship is a better option than risking her life....
there are 800 numbers in the beginning of yellow pages for help with suicide....(even if it doesn't advertise for the families and friend ...trust me...they will direct you to the most helpful place)
GOOD LUCK
GOD BLESS
2006-10-01 06:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by JEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the counseling office at the school. let someone know she needs help. if she kills herself u will feel the guilt for not telling someone. encourage her to speak with someone at the school. i will pray for u both. good luck.
2006-10-01 06:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lady B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report it to someone who can do something about it, such as a councilor or a school administrator.
and if you want to give her hope for her future yourself, try having her listen to this song. http://www.videocodezone.com/videos/f/five_for_fighting/100_years-3.html it gives a lot of confidence to me and I think it might do the same for your friend
I really hope that you can do something to help her change her mind about this.
2006-10-01 06:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your friend feels. If it wasn't for my kids I don't think I would be here now.
She needs professional help so try and talk her into it!
2006-10-01 06:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by sarah k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep telling her it wont be the same without her and stuff bring back good memories that you two have had and stuff. I am sure she will be okay. Good luck sweetie
2006-10-01 06:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋