my bf went to rehab and i just keep thinking hell find someone new or forget me, i need to see a consular but is there any tips you all got for me till i go see one
2006-10-01 05:54:45 · 3 answers · asked by babygirl00087 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I agree with the other posters about you having trouble the rest of your life if you stay with him. It's great that he is in rehab, but rehab will last his entire life. He will always have to be conscious about his drinking/drugging behavior. This is a lot of pressure on you. I don't think that addicts/non-addicts are incompatible, but I think most success with this combo happens when the couple gets together *AFTER* the addict has "recovered."
Maybe because you're in a relationship with an addict, you have your own set of problems (I mean, specific to dating an addict). You might want to check out the book Codependent No More (http://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025
or even consider going to a support group for partners of addict.
You can't control what your bf does, but you CAN control how you think about and deal with the situation.
2006-10-01 08:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by cleeps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't really beng overly negative. Rather, you are seeing reality. If your BF is chemically or alcohol addicted, he is going to be a problem for you, perhaps all of your life.
If you are not also a user, and you want a normal life, look elsewhere for a boyfriend. If you are, and you are afraid that he will dump you if he reforms, you are right. He'll have to.
Active Users are not compatible with non--users. Active Alcoholics are not compatible with non--alcoholics.
2006-10-01 06:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....get used to him going to rehab, as that will be ongoing forever.
2006-10-01 06:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋