I am curious if anyone has ever experienced anger to the point of just feeling like you are out of control. I do. I don't know what is wrong with me. I do have a lot of trouble in relationships and have felt like I never have had a man to really love me. I have been married 2 times and cheated on and physically abused in one marriage pretty bad. I don't trust anyone and am always feeling like people are against me. My current relationship is with a man that puts me down and calls me fat and just adds misery to my life. I can't find a man who has ever done anything besides pull me down. My anger comes from probably all of this over my past. I get so bent out of shape with small things. I seem to go from 0 to 100 in two seconds flat. I say things to hurt people just to get a reaction from them. I tried to get away from my current bf and I started seeing a guy that had been seperated from his x for about 3 months. Now they are back seeing one another. Will I ever find someone ot love?
2006-10-01 05:43:58 · 6 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to leave men alone for awhile, and learn who you are, and what you want. Spend some time alone, doing things you like to do, and going places you like to go. When you have done this, then look again...only in different places than you have looked in the past. I applaud you for being honest about yourself.
2006-10-01 05:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not giving yourself time to heal before starting another relationship. You need to seek professional help. You have been in abusive relationship in the past so you should know all the warning signs. You are treating others the way you have been treated and that isnt right. You cant trust others but can you trust yourself?You know how it feels to be cheated on and now your doing the samething. Why? If this man is being verbally abusive to you why do you tolerate this behavior from him? You tried to get away what happened you knew that coming back wouldnt change things.
2006-10-01 10:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of things that have conditioned you that way .Having said that you might need counseling and or medications to help . SSRI's are the gold standard but they kill your sex drive and pack on weight .Wellbutrin is a full magnatude lower than SSRI but it wont pack the weight on and it wont kill your sex drive .
Fish oil and flax oil capsules are good as well .Take a good B complex vitamin . Beleive it or not many people who are cranky have B vitamin defencies especialy B12 . Low dose tribulus (lowest possible dose) has been proven to get women and men a lot less cranky with the side effect of being a lot more horny.It produces a happy frisky puppy dawg like effect on me .
As always talk to your doctor about what you are going thru and what you want to take as a supplement . If at all possible stay away from an SSRI (zoloft ,prozac etc) If he puts you on something go for wellbutrin . If he puts you on an SSRI something like tribulus(with an ssri you would have to increase the dose a bit) or goat weed is an absolute must have ,
With goat weed dont get it blended with anything but goatweed itself . Stay away from yohimbe . Do not take yohimbe under any circumstances if you feel out of control .(yohimbe makes you feel like a raging pitbull , the sex is great , your heart palpitates and you feel hot and sweaty )
2006-10-01 06:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we are creatures of habit. You are simply attracted to the same type of guys, even though the circumstances seemed to be altered. For example; we might chose to never be with a drug addict again, but end up with an alcoholic the next time. The good news is; habits can be broken.
Now, about your anger, which is also one of the things that causes you to attract the same type of guys, that have also fallen into a habit of being attracted to the wrong type of women....
Anger is one of the forms that fear takes, and it is fear, not hate, which is love's true opposite. For example: we don't lock up prisoners because we hate them per se, but rather, because of our fear of what it might otherwise cost us if we do not. Thus to overcome your anger, you need to try to figure out what it is you actually fear in any given situation.
For example: you might get really angry at someone for eating both of the last two pieces of cake, but what you fear is that you have missed out on something, or that you are now going to be more hungry, or that you will now have to go through the extra effort of having to make something else to eat, or whatever. And it can be more than just one thing feared.
Your fears are also that which are making you less attractive to others seeking love. When you are nice, they're attracted to you, but when you are angry, they are repelled by it; for love attacts and fear repells. Therefore by understanding what it is you fear in any given situation, and mentally working your way through those fears, you will begin to realize that most fears we have in life are totally unjustified. And once you realize that, you will not be fearful anymore; instead, you will begin following love's guidance.
2006-10-01 06:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and don't look back. That does not mean walk right into another relationship. That means just cool it until you can get yourself under control. You can, you know. You're strong.
2006-10-01 05:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to gravitate towards the type of man that will hurt you.
2006-10-01 05:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋