her girlfriend deployed to iraq. she was the main reason for our breakup. every since her girlfriend left my wife has called me everyday and has tried to get back with me. her girlfriend divorced her husband 1 year ago and i think this influenced her to get seperated from me 8 months ago. she seems like a changed person all of a sudden since shes been gone. her friend and her new boyfriend rent from me and my wife. i think that she has came to her senses since her friend is gone. what do you think?
2006-10-01 05:43:19 · 20 answers · asked by kn74t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is about sex not love to her. she is using you while her girlfirend is away because she knows you are going to let her. She is using you.
2006-10-01 05:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has come to her senses because her girlfriend is gone. She doesn't want to be alone.
What happens when the girlfriend returns from Iraq? She will probably be back and the girlfriends wanting that relationship to continue.
I would stay separated /get a divorce and let it go. There is a reason things didn't work out the first time.
Good Luck!
2006-10-01 05:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all good now but what happens when the gf comes back from Iraq? Your gonna find yourself like a human yoyo getting your emotions pulled back and forth. I think she has shown her true colors and it's time to let her go. If it's not this person in Iraq she'll find another person.
Just my thoughts....
2006-10-01 05:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens when her friend returns from Iraq? If she is that easily influenced, when the friend comes back, it's going to be deja-vu! Then you're going to be in the same spot you're in now, all over again. No, unless there is a definite removal of this "friend", you need to stay away from her for good.
2006-10-01 05:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it only takes her friend to influence a divorce from you - her husband theres something wrong. Do you want her back? Have you thought about the possibility of her friend coming back and ruining everything all over again? Do you want to go thru it all again if this does happen?
2006-10-01 05:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! My hubby's ex wife has done this for 3 years now! When she has a man, she doesn't much talk to him! When that man is gone, she wants to try and work things out!! Even said she wouldn't go on date with her now fiancee if he would forget me and come back! She would forgive him for being with me! She's the one who left and wanted divorce,( 2 times with the same lover) has been this way ever since her lover dumped her! He tried to work things out, but now his phiosophy is 1st time shame on you, and 2nd time shame on me for thinking it would really change! 3rd time would make me a real fool! Stand Strong to what you believe, and don't let her suck you back in unless you are sure that's what's best for YOU!
2006-10-01 06:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by JETT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it simply... NO!!!
If you want to put yourself through all of the heartache & pain again... sure go for it. I'm not a masochist. If she let her friend influence her, who is going to do it next? And do you really want to take the chance? No way in hell would I take her back. My ex pulled that 'please take me back' crap. And I didn't. Something deep inside told me that it would be disasterous. Guess what? I met the most wonderful woman and we've been happily married for over 13 yrs.
Don't fall into the trap dude, that piece of pu$$y can't be worth it.
2006-10-01 10:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't take her back there was a reason she ask you in the first place.
Let stay on her own, because it sounds like she doesn't wanna be marride anyway
letting her friends control what she says and what she does. Good Luck what ever you do.....if you do go back with her watch everthing that happens and enter with caution!
2006-10-01 05:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have a long attention span. Let sleeping dogs lie and let her go. If she is that easy to influence. You will spend the rest of your life worrying about when she will leave again. Good luck!
2006-10-01 06:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by fred k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. your wife sounds like an immature person who can't make up her mind.
a committed relationship between two adults is a partnership where each person knows what is expected and based on those expectations a life as one couple is built. a profound lapse in judgment like your wife is exhibiting is reason enough to stay away from her.
2006-10-01 06:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a woman asking it of a man you'd include.."Should we be in counselling..." Well, maybe you should tell her you'll have her back if she'll go to counselling.
Realistically - if it failed once, it will fail again. On the other hand if you just want someone to do your washing now and then...
2006-10-01 06:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋