my husband spitting and throwing beer on me i have very bad arthris and i cant work please tell me something else i can do we have been married 29 yrs of pure hell i know i shopuld have got out years ago but i chose not to. im a fool i know and i just dont want to leave and if i make him leave then i will be throed out i have nothing but i do have a house ful of furniture and i would take it with me thanks for all the help on the first question i just dont know what to so anymore but cry i live in asmall town and i dont want this town knowing my business i am just lost
2006-10-01 05:40:56 · 13 answers · asked by sassygal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are asleep. Wake up !! and do something to save yourself.
It does not matter what others think. You are the one you have to please. Your self esteem is important.
2006-10-01 05:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, my heart just ache reading this. The answers you've received so far are great ones. I know it's easier said then done but, all of these are important. First, you've been married for so long that it almost seem as though you couldn't live without him. I've been married for 10 years and still young and I already feel as though I couldn't live without my husband. But, see I have a wonderful husband so, I can't relate to that type of abuse. The only thing I can tell you is that you should be on your knees praying everyday. Choose a time everyday, say 12pm in the afternoon and for a week tell God you need an answer, talk to him just like he was right in the room, as you would speak to a friend because he actually is. AND be strong, look at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself that you are much stronger than this arthristis. You are stronger through God who gives you strength. And know always that he'll come through. He'll either change your husband and you'll be a testimony wherever you go or he'll open a door for you to get out. God doen'st like divorce but, I'm sure he doesn't like abuses either. He'll open a door somehow, trust me, I've tried him and he's never failed me yet.
2006-10-01 05:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
horrible behavior....but 29 years invested ...you should stay married!
Arthritis can be debilitating, and limit your abilities in the work force, but you typed this question...so perhaps you can find a job that does not task your disabilities but accentuates your abilities. You have a mind and a world full of knowledge...schools need subs...this is a very good income for most anyone! Just keep yourself busy doing something other than setting yourself up to being disrespected. You don't need a divorce...just a distraction!
2006-10-01 06:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to get out now.....while you can! I live in a small town as well but your life is more important than what people think. People will talk reguardless if you do anything or not so don't worry about what they say just get away ....! Good luck & I wish you the best!
2006-10-01 05:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he spits or throws beer on you again, call the police. That is considered assault. Maybe some jail time will get him to cool off. If not, it will at least give you time to find a place and move out.
2006-10-01 06:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report abuse. Go to a shelter. Get a restraining order. Get counseling. Get your life back. Small toens are great extended families. Reach out to the community, they will love & support you. They will be able to be a great asset. Be proactive instaed of reactive. Crying does release feelings and help but it does nothing to resolve the problem.
2006-10-01 05:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we all have to do things that are uncomfortable and inconvenient, and you deserve to maintain your Integrity and Self Worth, what's left of it. Don't let yourself be humiliated anymore, you been punishing yourself too long. I hope all goes well with you. Regardless of your decision. I wouldn't worry about the small town mentality either, your emotional and mental state is what they will admire the most.
2006-10-01 05:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-29 09:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he has been supporting u for (i dont know how many years ) then u can get spouse support and plus u get half of everything
good luck sweety
2006-10-01 05:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by lil_mamas_sk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just Pray and ask God to help you through this and for guidance. my heart goes out to u and hope things will get better for u.
2006-10-01 05:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by olive_sugar21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋