I left my husband, because I felt he didn't appreciate me. I really didn't want to leave, but I didn't know what else to do. I really want to be with him, and he's told me that I need to use my imagination to show him. I don't want to have to spend money to prove to him that I love him or want to be with him...What other things can I do to show him that I'm sorry and that I want to make this marriage work?
2006-10-01 05:32:36 · 13 answers · asked by QBABY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has to be willing to meet you halfway. You can do everything in your power to prove it to him, and if he's not willing to accept it, you're nowhere. Talk to him, face to face, and heart to heart. If that gets you nowhere, then just give it time. If he wants it to work too, he will come around. Good Luck!!
2006-10-01 05:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If "saying" you are truly sorry is not enough then there is nothing more that you can do. If you leave him every 4 to 6 weeks and then return he is not convinced that you really want to be with him. However, if this was a one time deal, and you are truly sorry about it then your sincere apology should be enough. There are 2 people in a marriage and these 2 committed adults should work together in order to sustain the marriage. For some reason we all at one point or another feel that the responsibility falls on the other partner when this is not so. If you have tried talking to your husband and he is not willing to acknowledge and change his behavior then try this; try treating him the way you would want him to treat you. In other words, show him that you appreciate him in as many ways as you can think of with the act or gesture not involving money. If you have the desire to "return" to your husband realize that it's easy to get married, but the challenge comes in staying married.
2006-10-01 14:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by roddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You felt he didn't appreciate you. Try to keep that in mind. Now you're talking about how you can show him you're sorry.
Why do you feel he's changed? It sounds a little to me like he is manipulating you (as some people on here might think - to get the BJ of his life). Worse than that, it sounds a little as though you are allwing yourself to be manipulated. This may be because you have been worn down by your separation. Of course, you'll feel like this from time to time. Isn't it possible though, that you can find someone that really appreciates YOU.
2006-10-01 13:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by j_f_sebastian82 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be with your husband, you can show him with being honest and faithful, and loving him. In showing him Interest in the things he enjoys. Appreciate the things he does for you, and for other people. Supporting his Emotional well being, and taking the time to let him know how much you love him.
Take Care, I hope all works out for the best for you two.
2006-10-01 12:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one the question should be what should he do to make you feel loved the reason you left in the first place is because of his selfishness not yours!If i were you i'd just lay everything out on the table for him and let him decide if he's willing to work out your marriage with you,you did nothing wrong your husband should be doing all he can to win your love back.good luck
2006-10-01 12:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is you can only work on yourself. once you change your steps in the marriage dance, your mate will begin to sadjust theirs. plus by identifying and working on your own shortcommings you'll gain credibility with your mate and create an environment that's conducive to change. Praise his qualities you admire most and build on them. anytime you see positive recognize and encourage it. dont let things escalate. make a habit of asking if there is anything on your mind you want to talk about. Try to be more understanding and lessen your dependance on your mate. Above all be patient neither of you are perfect. Goodluck.
2006-10-01 12:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband said "use your Imagination". Do it and stop asking us. You left him now you need to straighten it out yourself. The saying is "you made your bed now sleep in it"
Last you said you left because he didn't appreciate you. Looks like you crawling back on his terms. Are you sure you know what your doing.
2006-10-01 12:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
create a cute little picnic in the house by candlelight at night along with a little strip tease dance. bring out of few of yall favorite experience pictures, books movies something that says everything without saying anything. love means never having to say i'm sorry and so does a romantic night,soft music,wine and candle light,if this does not work........work on how (he )can better fulfill your needs and you feel appreciated more (communication)don't let him make u feel u did something wrong.
2006-10-01 13:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be submissive...
Be loyal..
Be discrete...
Keep the house clean...
No sexual boundaries...
Is there anything sexually you have not done that he may have some fantasy about ?.Now is the time..Be a swallower, not a spitter.
Be consistant with all of the above..
2006-10-01 12:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't grovel at his feet or he will not respect you.....just give him
the best b.j. he has ever had and it won't cost you a dime and he
will love you for it.......
2006-10-01 12:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋