Why are Black women desired by White men but then they are to afraid to ask us out? I get this so much, a White guy will tell everyone I know that he likes me and would like to date me but never personally ask me out. Why, I'm not an intemidating type person nor do I come across in that manner, and I don't soely date Black men only, but for some reason a lot of
White guys are too afraid to ask me out. So what is the deal with that?
2006-10-01 05:28:52 · 24 answers · asked by Simmy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I've often wondered about this myself. Glad you asked it right out. But I think it's mostly intimidation and fear. Many white men have told me I was attractive, smart, and all the good stuff, but lost the nerve in the dating situation. I think black women have a bad rap. We are often called loud, belligerent and uneducated, because that's the social norm portayed on TV and in Movies. People actually believe those stereotypical views of black women. Even black men believe them. So many are intimidated, thinking we are going to try and rule everything. They think we will try to overpower them and never shut up. MOST men like control in their relationship or least to be on equal ground and the view of black women often get the oppoiste image. I also think many fear judgement. They fear judgement of society, their families, and co-workers. white men dating black women is still kinda taboo, because we don't see this type of couple to often, but we don't see it because it's taboo. Kinda like one of those who came first the chicken or the egg deals.
2006-10-01 06:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ask A Black Man
2016-10-06 11:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the whole black attitude thing. Down with the man, etc etc. You may not be intimidating, but the culture sort of spawns that viewpoint. Take the initiative and ask him out on a date, or just take the time to talk to him and really get to know him. He'll eventually warm up and ask you if you show that you are just as interested in him.
2006-10-01 05:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's because black women come across as aggressive powerful beings. It really doesn't matter whether you think your personality is not intimidating. People mis- judge me all the time just by the way I look. I think just by us being black women that stereotype is automatically applied
2006-10-01 05:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by karamel 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I think some of its because of their family. They will be looked down on from their family.
My boyfriend thinks that black women are beautiful(i'm white by the way) but he made a comment before we started dating about how good looking this one was before his sister got married and her soon to be husband's family got soo mad at him.
2006-10-01 05:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Many whie men do date black women. Maybe the guy who says he wants to take you out is just blowing hot air. Forget about him.
2006-10-01 05:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I notice this too. Maybe they don't think that we find them attractive. It's this white guy in my class who is always giving me compliments and asking me out. I said yes, and we had the most wonderful time last night.
2006-10-01 07:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
not trying to offend anyone, but in our society, the black men and the white woman are looked upon as the weaker sex of their race... the white man the black woman is the HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD for their races. they just don;'t ususally mix.
Alot of people are afraid to go outside their "race", because of the reaction(disapproval) of society and family alike.
2006-10-01 05:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
its not just white that would not like to date black girls even asian guys dont like to date a black girl unless ur beautiful than tyra banks or herry berry then maybe and its not the color when a guy choose to date its the face where men most look before anyone date her okay men will date anyone as long as she is pretty and beautiful okay
2006-10-01 06:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't know. I had a black girlfriend for 4 years, she was the best girlfriend I ever had.
2006-10-01 05:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 10⤊ 1⤋