5 years ago i worked for this guy, and i was severely depressed n i jumped off a building. after crippling injuries and years of poverty, i made my way to living at funeral home working a part time job except i was not happy. i moved in with a woman who spent all my money and dissed me. homeless, i turned to the goverment for aid and receive ssi. i have not seen my parents in 8 years. i am thinking about truck driving. i have not dated a girl in 18 months, and have no female friends. i only have one male friend who is older then me. i just best a CCW case that resulted in me being upset about my previous misfortunes. i feel this driving need to reach out and hold someone, feel intimate, feel happy, but i think im sabatoging myself by doing so because i've been fine the past year with just me and my one friend. what should i do? what are your insights about my position and situation. help is really needed, and i hope i get consideate responses.
2006-10-01 05:01:41 · 8 answers · asked by ISOBESTANSWERS 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
correction i BEAT not best a ccw case and it didnt result in it resulted FROM
2006-10-01 05:18:22 · update #1
i found temporary solace in "give me the beat boys" mp3
2006-10-01 05:28:52 · update #2
Stop defining yourself by your past. These are "incidents" that have happened to you. Get out side of your head. I am in no way trivializing what has happened to you but as corny as it sounds...today is a new start. You have had a lot of time to think things over, it's time to start getting busy.
You think you are sabotaging yourself? Well then you probably are. You know yourself better than we do. But it sounds like you are now ready for some changes.
And recognize that happiness can be comprised of tiny moments, so don't wait for all of it to hit at once.
I don't think it matters what you do for a job, but you need to build your confidence by being out in the world again.
I think when you start making some small steps, you'll see a difference.
And know when you are finally holding someone (it will happen) and feeling all that happiness, remember how far you have come.
I wish you all the luck, now get started!
2006-10-01 12:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really have gone through a lot. but somewhere along the line, u still feel there is hope. u seem like the optimist who is waiting for that change. only, truck driving is definitely not the answer.
i m not qualified to give an answer, and will not even attempt it. i'll just tell u about 2 people i met. the first is a woman who lost her husband in the second year of her marraige. no proper qualifications, on top of that the child born was a girl, inlaws refused to let her in, and parents refued to help. mind u single women in a bad situation are also vulnerable to all sorts of cheats and bullies. all she cud get was a job as a helper in a school. she clutched it. and turned to religion big time. her prayers& constant focus on the need to live and a belief that the almighty,was amazing. the calm and peace she has managed to achieve has given her respect of the entire community. it has given her a secuirty, and status, which tho does not have much money, but it is the envy of all who outcast her.
the second person met was a a man in his late 30s, suffering from diabetes. he had gone to delhi for treatment, but on his return he found that his entire family of relatives, wife parents, everyone was lost in the floods. they never came back. his entire village had disappeared off the face of the earth. he did not turn to god, he went the other direction. no money, no land, no home, nothing... he just saw other people around him. he felt that their misery was bigger than his. he lives to ensure rehabilitation of people who had lost hope and families like him. he believes that if we work for a good goal, we do not need money, friends, family, etc.. he battles for life, but works for other people around him.
they both had one common thing to say: if, whn they were going thru the worst phases, and whn misery struck them, they had become emotionally weak and dependent on someone, they wud have never been able to look at themselves in the mirror. they went thru a trauma, were shattered, and till date they face problems, but bcoz they believe that 2moro is another day, and they were born human for a reason, they manage to give all the problems a fight.
yes, the issue of their being single and wihout a life partner comes up big time (after all this is india!!),but for them it is not a problem. if they find someone, well and good, but otherwise their purposes in life are so well defined, and their need need to live for others is so strong, that the issue becomes marginalized.
u seem to be the kind of guy with a lot of inner strength, but no particular goal. look around you, there are so many people who need you, and the special talents you have. u r lucky u have a friend, even if older. start with him. start something, u'll be surprised at wht life holds for u.
all the very best in life.
2006-10-01 13:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by slmanl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider joining a support group or some other type of social group (poker, volleyball, chess, etc.) depending on your injuries. You won't meet new friends without getting out and experiencing life.
2006-10-01 16:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by ?man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"common sense" and maragaret both make good points
keep in mind though, you don't need other people to make you feel good about yourself... i.e. they can't change you. if you wish to pursue a relationship with a girl, try to find one who's not like the one mentioned in your question... i know it sounds easier than it is
you're very insightful, it seems, so you have that going for you, i.e. you're not totally blind to what is happening to you, which would be much worse....
either way, i wish you luck in whatever you choose to do in your life
2006-10-01 12:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by anachronymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of town..
Go find work as a farmhand or ranchhand which provides
stability & structure along with room & board with some pay...
Building superintendant of a small apt. building might provide
the same kind of benefits...
2006-10-01 12:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can usually only count your true friends on one hand. People are ****** annoying anyways. Keep a couple close friends and that's all you need. You don't need more people ******* up your life. All they're good for is making greasy imbilical cords anyways...
2006-10-01 12:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by Margaret I 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find a job you like to do. Get a pet. go to school.
2006-10-01 13:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are friends then there are true friends, go out and make friends, you never have to many friends, and you will still have one your true friend. god is your true friend turn to him and see what happens you can count on him when you cannot count on any one else good luck.
2006-10-01 12:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋