I found out recently that my wife has been with prostitutes on at least 3 seperate occasions. She has always had a curiosity about being with another woman and we have been open and honest with our discussions on the subject. She has confessed of all recently to me through her own guilt than through any cooertion from me. We have since split and have taken legal advice to commence divorce proceedings. She has done the same but has now told me that what she has done is legally not adultery, which to me does not make sense!?!
I would like to know your thoughts and any advice from anyone who is familiar with the law in this case.
2006-10-01 04:54:43 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know the law regarding divorce and adultery. However, I would get an AIDS test if I were you. Yes, AIDS can be spread through lesbian sex acts,....and the risk goes up substantially when one has sex with prostitutes or other people who engage in high risk behaviors.
Sorry about your situation, I hope things look up for you soon.
2006-10-01 04:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would be pleased that there wife wants to get it on with chicks.... Isn't;t that like a guy fantasy? Obviously, if she isn't a lesbian and you don't have a problem with this then why are your getting a divorce? If she is a lesbian and prefers chicks to guys then she is doing you a favour..
As for the law thing , adultery is adultery she cheated on you be it with a woman, man , dog, moose whatever she was unfaithful and i believe that is grounds for a divorce using adultery as a reason. And if all else fails you could also use irreconcilable differences cause you both can;t seem to agree on whether it was an affair or not.
2006-10-01 05:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by kibbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paul I'm so sorry you should think long + hard about your choices you do have some talk + resolve. there are issues here if she thinks there was something laking in your marriage she had to get that from a hooker find out why she did this what were her reasons for doing it + decide if you both as a couple can carry on together if not then you are going in the right direction with divorce proceedings i wish you all the best + remember not all women are the same
2006-10-01 06:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what she has done has diminished your trust in her, then yes it is cheating. To my mind, anything that a person does that they would not want their partner to know about or which they know would upset their partner if they were present is cheating.
Having said that, in the eyes of the law, I don't know whether a female visiting a female prostitute would count as adultery or as something else.
It seems a shame that as you have both always been honest about the feelings she had, she had to go behind your back.
2006-10-01 05:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the laws of England and Wales it is not adultery. A husband who engages in homosexual sex is not committing adultery. A wife who gives oral sex to another man is not committing adultery. All are particulars of unreasonable behavious which is a separate ground for divorce. Adultery is defined as sexual intercouse with a member of the opposite sex that is not the spouse.
2006-10-04 04:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by judge mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul, you took a vow to love and cherish. If she violated that vow does that mean you don't stand by yours? Deep question on many levels. I would personally go with the health aspect. You wife has exposed herself and therefore you to any number of diseases that, without her or your cheating, would never be introduced into your coupling. I think that is the answer. Your wife has broken her vow you need to decide how you want to handle it. You can forgive and try to move forward, many couples are drawn much closer by such an indiscretion, or you can move on without her. You need to decide if you want her or not. If not, you have a legal basis for divorce.
2006-10-01 05:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by barkel76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's adultery. Anytime a spouse engages in personal sexual activities with another person other than their spouse, no matter what gender the person they're cheating with is still considered cheating and the law may apply to them just as it would with a heterosexual adultery.
2006-10-01 05:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The following link details the grounds and defences for Divorce: Adultery
http://www.brandeslaw.com/grounds_for_divorce/gndsadde.htl
These days it is easier to end a marriage than it is to try to save one…
Forget about using ‘adultery’ as a grounds for divorce, and instead go for a ‘no fault’ divorce. Check out the following link for details…
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/Pages/grounds.html#what%20is
2006-10-01 05:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already seek legal advice , now are you ready for a seperation an all? or do you go on with your life an marriage? Is this something you could welcome an imbrace into your marriage , if so maybe this is your answer. Only "you" have the answers as to where you go from here. tare it down or re-build it an have a new start on things?
2006-10-01 06:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i believe this is cheating! It doesnt matter the circumstances whether its a man or a waoman but she has cheated on you and she has no right to make out that this isnt adultery when its obvious it is! Its all their in Black and White
She doesnt deserve you!
2006-10-05 03:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by sej_finch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋