my husband often threatens with verbal things such as I will break your fingers or cut your hair if you touch my stuff again....My daughter is 14 and this bothers me alot. I don't know what to do. He has not touched her but his words make me upset. I love him, but am thinking about leaving him. He and my daughter do not get along and never have. We have been together for 3 years.
2006-10-01 04:52:38 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She resents him because he is not her Dad. She is at an age where she is naturally in rebellion. You are caught in the middle between your husband and your child and your natural inclination is to protect your child. It is good that he has not followed thru on his threats. You need to find a good family therapist and get some mediation going. If you want to stay with this man, it might be good for your daughter to live with her birth father. This is a bad situation for all 3 of you. She has to have some boundaries set and to respect those and other people's property. He needs to get real about his threats and not rave like a madman. Your family needs help. Find a good councelor and get some help. If you love him, try to see his side also. Most fourteen year olds are a walk thru hell at best. They go thru rebellion and get totally belligerant. Nobody is totally innocent in this situation. Both are at fault here.
2006-10-01 04:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by kolacat17 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 step son's myself. Discipline is a hard thing to do with step children. But the saying things like that is just plain wrong. Does he know it bothers you that much? Your child is #1 and should remain that. If you and your husband can't work it out then leaving may be the best thing to do.
2006-10-01 12:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by highrange101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time a man spoke those words to any of my children, he would be kicked to the curb so fast he wouldn't know what hit him. I don't even joke around with my kids like that and he'd find out there are certain things I do not tolerate and this is one of 'em.
2006-10-01 12:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your children come first. If it's been 3 years and they still don't get along, leave him. If he had enough respect and love for you then he wouldn't be that way to your children that he should love and respect also. Just my opinion :-)
2006-10-01 11:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock it off or you will pack up and leave, and why.
Verbal abuse is just as, if not worse than physical abuse.Threats like those leave scars too.
2006-10-01 11:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never should have married someone that can't get along with your kids. It isn't a good environment for anyone. Leave him now.
2006-10-01 11:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock it off and seek education on ways to discipline children correctly.
2006-10-01 11:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling is definately in the works. Also he should seek anger management and parenting classes.
2006-10-01 12:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Superman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about these issues....is the child seeking
attention even though it may be negative....Explain to him that
these things upset you and if he loves you he should want to
respect your wishes.....etc.....
2006-10-01 11:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit him in the mouth with your heaviest frying pan. Repeat as needed until he shuts the **** up.
2006-10-01 11:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋