he insults me before his parents .truely i love him.but don't know y he behave like that if they are around he don't talk to me even don't sit beside me.worried abt him .am unable to forget the incidents.please help
2006-10-01 04:38:24 · 19 answers · asked by sweety06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is our typical Indian problem. So don worry, everything will be okay soon.
In the presence of yur in law's yur hubby dont behave properly but what about in there absence? If he loves yu in there absence than its not serious problem in Indian terms and will settled soon with time.
Pl don get desperate and handle the situation tactfully for example yu do extra ordinary care and keep ultra concern for them more than yur hubby. Take my words situation will turn up very fast...........Cheer up dear, its our culture.
2006-10-01 05:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rohit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a serious talk with him and tell him how you feel. You should ask him why he behaves the way he does.
Was he like that when you first met and fell in love with him. If there was a change, ask him why. Perhaps there are some things that you do that upset him. You can start from there.
If he has no valid reason, then there is just no love left and you may want to consider leaving him as there is no relationship to talk about.
2006-10-02 05:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Erize Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u newly married ? because it happened with me too when i was newly married . men's feel shy or like their are worried what will my parents say if i take care or talk with my wife in-front of them .their are worried whether their will be called hen-pecked husband by their parents.so i guess it will take some time for him to accept u as amember of his family after a year maybe he will behave as he is.this was the problem i had and when i found that he doesn't realise the problem i discussed this with my hubby, now he understood but still i feel the problem is not completely solved.so give him some time to understand if he doesn't understand then explain him the problem when he is in agood mood.AM sure he will understand.
2006-10-01 13:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by simplewife20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure to actually talk to him as soon as possible. Ask why he does the things he does? Go out to a romantic dinner, or even a picnic to remind him that he has you, and loves you. Otherwise, you just need some marriage counseling. Try the other things first though before.
2006-10-01 11:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's just when his parents are around then look to them for the answer ie what is his dad like to his mum? If same, maybe he's just trying to 'please' them by behaving in the same way? I imagine if you could speak to him about it you would have done so by now, so maybe try changing your behaviour a little next time the parents come round, ie make a point of sitting next to him, holding his hand, etc. If he gets up and moves away from you, just say in loud voice 'oh, have you farted again, honey?!' to embarrass him as much as he's embarrassing you behaving like that in the first place. Silly man.
2006-10-01 11:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
After you, your husband is supposed to be your biggest supporter. His immediate family is now the one he is making with you,(no longer his parents) & apparently he either has forgotten those two things, or he never knew it in the 1st place.
You must communicate your feelings to your husband. Set boundaries. For your marriage to work, you both need to be caring, supportive, & nurturing to one another.
You won't be able to forget what he has done until you are assured that he won't do it again, & only his actions will demonstrate if he's sincerely going to change.
2006-10-01 11:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a chat about your worries with him. Ask why he feels the need to belittle you whenever his parents are around? Is he trying to show them that he controls you.
What's your personality like, do you always want to have the last word.....
In any case talk to him before drawing any conclusion.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 11:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rosita 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont take that **** honey, you are a woman, a woman with needs and desire. you go to his parents house and you talk to them, butt HIM out of the convasations. Make his life hell, smash his car up, burn his clothes, and cut him from your photos and mail them to your address, just so you can burn the letter. After all of this im telling you now, he will sit next to you and never insult you again. if he does then set his parents dog on fire, untill he relises he is wrong. honey you deserve more than this phycho. xxxxxxx
2006-10-01 11:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to him frankly why he does like that after seeing his mood,he does like this bcz he may be traditional in nature & u must be doing any behaviour which he didnt like in front of parents.
2006-10-01 12:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by jaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you should call him on it, right there in front of everyone so he can feel how you feel. IF he doesn't get the hint then you should leave because he obviously has no respect for you.
2006-10-01 11:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by geishagirl61 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋