I have married for 5 months and we started to know each other when she moved to my town one year ago. we spent 7 months together before being married, before we got married I asked her if she was dating someone else during our relation but she sweared NO. Now while we are having hot conversation, she admitted that she had sex with someone while we are meeting once with someone she met in the bar for one day only? this story destroyed my life with here now not because of sex but cuz of keep lieing all this time. I love her but now when I look at her the only picture come to my mind is what she did. what should I do ?
2006-10-01 04:35:42 · 16 answers · asked by yakooo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not my place to say you should or shouldn't get a divorce .. but without trust .. it's kind'a tough to have a deep and meaningful relationship. Try couples counseling first. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-01 04:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a horrible thing to find out, but you must avoid the temptation to obsess about this. I don't condone being unfaithful to someone at all, but it sounds like this thing she did happened early on in your relationship (no excuse, I know) but perhaps at that point she was unsure, hence easily swayed into a one-night stand. You need to try and work through this together, and once the trust has been rebuilt your marriage will be stronger than before. Something to think about - if someone cheated on you, is it better it was a one night thing, rather than a prolonged affair of texts/phone calls/meeting up even if they don't have sex? Something else - does she seem reaaaallly sorry about it? That might help you decide if you want to try and work it out or not... Good luck.
2006-10-01 04:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow first off...sorry..i feel bad for ya. I dont think you should divroce her, i think you can get through this. Do you really love her? Can you imagine your life without her? Cuz if you cant, then you should work things out, go to a counselor. Talk to someone together so you can work it out together. If you can imagine your life without her, then maybe you shouldnt be together. Just remember that life is very very short and you do not want to waste it with the wrong person or with someone that doesnt make you 100% happy 120% of the time. Good Luck to you both...
2006-10-01 04:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by sandee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's really a hard thing to get over. I don't think you should just get a divorce though. I'd try to work it out. It's really messed up that she threw it in your face just because she was mad. I don't think that shows much for her character and maturity at all. It's not something that she told you because she felt guilty or wrong for what she did, she told you that to hurt you. Just try to work on finding out if you can trust her again or not. Do what ever you need to do to find that out, whether it's counseling, or just spending more time together to get to know her as much as you can. You can never find out everything about a person. but maybe if you find out what you can, you'll feel better
2006-10-01 04:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been there, and done that, I would say, go ahead and get out now. Don't waste 25 years of your life like I did. I never got over it! Good Luck!! You never overcome the lying!!
2006-10-01 05:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....at least she had the @#!$ to tell you the truth so i would forgive her this one time and if she does it again divorce her.........everybody needs a 2nd chance!!!!!!!!! If it keeps bugging you alot about this maybe you'll should go to marriage counseling...........because with NO trust it will bascially be bad...........you need to learn to trust her again and that takes time so GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-01 05:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by VICTORIA L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha.....you married my ex.......just kidding, if at 5 months
there is that much turmoil in your relationship it is definitely time
to move on and not torture yourself.......get it annuled while you can....good luck
2006-10-01 04:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was afraid to tell you, for fear you wouldn't like her. Give her a break and try to keep your marriage together.
2006-10-01 04:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way or another you will have to get over this betrayal by your wife. Even if you divorce. So what would you rather do? Get over it without her, or get over it with her?
2006-10-01 04:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling one lie doesn't make her always a lier. you ought to know that. Youve told lies, too, and you are not untrustorthy.
2006-10-01 04:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by same here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋