He seems to get in a mood with me all the time for no reason. I've sked him to stop but he won't. When he does something to hurt me he nevers says sorry and i always say it for no reason to try and make him talk to me again. He lies to me about what he's doing and doesnt want me around him at the weekends. What should I do?
2006-10-01 04:26:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he is harboring something that you may have done to him try to find out if there is something that he is secretly angry about and if you cant then he is just being an *** and you should drop him like a bad habit.
2006-10-01 04:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seems that this person is shutting you out, possibly because he has genuine resons to do so which he feels he can't share with you. This could be because you two haven't connected at deeper emotional level and that he feels if he tells you his problem then you'd run away.
If you want to continue be with him, then you'll have to tolerate this sort of behaviour till he comes around. There could be troubles with his family or other problem that he doesn't wanna talk about.
As for lying about what he is doing and not wanting you around for weekends, its a possibility that he is cheating on you. In such case you should break up with him.
If you want him to come around you should pretend not to care and see how he reacts. Usually when guys play hard to gte the girls want to chase him even more. You seem to be doing thta as well. Just back off for a while and see what happens.
2006-10-01 04:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Zed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he can't be bothered and is treating you as someone to spend time with when there's nothing better to do. The longer you stay with him whilst he's behaving like this, the lower your self-esteem will get - you're already apologising for things you don't need to. Break up - if he realises what he's lost and bucks his ideas up then try again, if not, you've had a lucky escape! Good luck!
2006-10-01 06:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like he is very controlling, and from experience this doesn't get better, if anything it escalates. Unfortunately you can't change him, he has to want that himself and controlling personalities rarely want that. What it boils down to is can you live like this or not? I have no doubt you love him or you wouldn't be struggling with this and asking, but I can't tell you that as if by magic he is going to change - he isn't. It took me years to wise up to this, and although it has been hard, I am so much better off without my ex. I have my confidence, self-esteem and will to live back, after years of them being eroded by what you have described and worse. In the end though, it's your call.
2006-10-01 04:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that makes you happy. Or stay with him until you become miserable enough that you end up hating him. Very ahrd for people to change. chances are he will change when they lose someone. He thinks hes not doing anyhting wrong because you let him. Try to let know what hes doing is not respectful. If cares for you he would change it - if he acts moody again leave him. You don't know what could make this guy tick and then its an even worse scenario for you to deal with.
2006-10-01 05:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by jovy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good advice.
Should you break up with him?
Please do.
That means you'll find a wonderful man so much sooner.
And remember -- we only get the type of man we truly believe we deserve.
And, you deserve better.
Don't make the breakup bitter. Take the high road and stay classy.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 04:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to music. It carries alot of good answers to questions like these. It really helps and you can relate to the lyrics. In fact, try singing aloud, you can forget about your problems with your boyfriend for a little moment.
If I were you, I'd observe for about a week more before I decide I should dump him. Being dumped yourself will be suck so bad.
2006-10-01 05:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by La Meme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is taking you for granted. Perhaps he needs some space.
I know a couple where the girl is doing all the work to keep the relationship going. Doesn't seem fair though.
2006-10-01 04:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear....
You sound so miserable, i'm so sorry, i know how you feel. If this doesn't improve you really have to move on for your own good.
I know it's a lot easier to say than do.
Good luck - i'm sure someone fantastic will sweep you off your feet in no time! You deserve it!
2006-10-01 05:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has other things consuming his time and he's feeling bad about it so is being nasty to you... which in turn will turn you against him. Which gets him the result he wants...
It may be something totally different, but this seems possible.
2006-10-01 05:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋