i have told her and it is worse?

Question

my parter knows now what i have done and why i did it but she is only cross because i wrote a cheque for one of my daughters who gave me the money for the cheque and instead of paying it into the bank i used it for shopping etc, i belive that she thinks that my daughter kept on about the cheque and in a way made me do it, but ihave told her what happened and she seems to not accept it, i have told her that i am angry with myself and ashamed of what i have done i have cut my cards up and made sure all money goes into her account dont know what else todo i am trying to be honest but it seems tobe getting worse by being honest she dosent seem to understand my reasons

Answer 1

write her a letter sometimes its easier to write it than say it.

Answer 2

i do know your reasons, and feel that i have been very patient and understanding with you, but as you usual you seem to show any gr attitude, not even a simple thanks.and as for saying i have a hang up with your kids well that takes the biscuit. you seemed to have missed the fact of what your kids are like at times, how they treat you, IE put you down insult and criticise you, their rudeness, attitudes and their lack of thought to everybody but them selves you are the one with the hang up because you won't let go.And yes you would like to think that's the only reason i am cross but you forgot to mention that we had discussed the cheque business and your daughter and you agreed that she was to pay it and we would give her back half when we could afford it also how you lied to me for a month or more you took the cheque from the middle of the book, you hid the book, i gave you a number of chances to admit what you had done (as i already knew what you had done,but you still continued to lie through your **** you also have forgotten to mention that because you lied you also made your 16 year old daughter tell bare faced lies plus you wrote the cheque and yes she did pay you 160 pounds but another week went by before you got the other 90 pounds knowing full well we were in debt and couldn't afford to do what you did in any form and you have the ordassity to say the you never put your kids needs before mine or ours
get a life mate

Answer 3

So you have an addiction to shopping.....because you want to be in control of SOMETHING. Thats not unusual in any type of relationship...neither is lying....and its just as damaging.

Why do you want her to play the mummy role instead of equal partner? Thats something you need to work out with a counsellor. Ask her to go see one with you...because quite frankly this is a YOU thing where it doesnt matter WHICH partner you are with...it will keep on going. Maybe you do want to be alone and sexless or oversexed but partnerless because it serves your ill-concieved perception that you are bad?

Being a lesbian places you in a minority group, therefore the amount of partners is limited. Therefore if you love this woman and she stuck around so long thaqt she must love you in return...dont you think you owe it to yourself and her to get at the root cause of why you do what you do?

It would help her more if you arranged ACTION to take place, on a specific date, to rectify the root cause rather than just an apology or giving the money back...that fixes nothing and all she is assured of is continual BS.

Answer 4

It sounds like you two need therapy. Your partner should not be acting like your mommy and controlling your money for your kids.

Answer 5

This must be part 2 of another question!

Answer 6

your partner seems very selfish and controlling.

you should never have ALL your money going into someone elses account.

Answer 7

Huh?

Answer 8

You might wanna try this site: http://lilt.ilstu.edu/golson/punctuation/
and then ask your question again.