I am recently divorced and trying to move on with my life. My ex left me for another woman - one he had an affair with. It hurt and still hurts like he**. But I am trying to move on. I went out with some friends last night two of whom are divorced. They have both been divorced over two years and have still not started dating yet! Why is it taking so long for these women to move forward while their exs are engaged to other women and one even has a child. Are we like children? Do we hold on to the hope that one day we will reconcile with our ex? How do I prevent that from happening to me?
2006-10-01 04:15:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men don't seem to have the emotional capacity of us women, I think that's why they get over such things with awful rapidity. We as women on the other hand may always pine for what was. I have never been married but had a long term boyfriend who I broke up with a year ago and I know how hard it can be.
When you are secure and ready, and trust me you'll know, you will start dating. Its not abnormal, more people are like it than you think.
And anyway, why would you want to rush into something that's not quite right when you can wait and receive something so much better?!
2006-10-01 04:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are your own woman. Some women do hold on to the hope that things will go back to the way they were, and thats kinda sad. You could either obsess and ponder your ended marriage or you can get on with it and get a life of your own. It does take time for the pain to ease, no doubt about that. But if you continue to stay at home and cry and wonder where YOU went wrong, it will never be over.
I know a woman who spent over 10 yrs waiting for her ex to come back to her. She did this until he died last yr. Its a sad waste of time.
2006-10-01 04:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sympathize with you before i met my present wife i had been divorced for 16 yrs afraid of making mistakes again how to act what to talk about,where to go how to respond afraid of making myself look like fool or an underage boy even how to dress or which cologne to wear, i became a recluse concentrating only on piloting then i realised that i was just feeling guilty for myself and for having loved a woman who not only betrayed me and my children leaving the household with every little hard saving for our future old age.. 87.000.00 she squandered on a new B/F take your time you will meet the person that will treat and respect you for the lady that you are no ex spouse merits reconcilliation things will never be the same wouds may heal but the scar is always there MOVE on and slowly in the meanwhile GOD will be your companion
2006-10-01 04:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you do not need a man to make you happy. You can enjoy life with friends just as much. enjoy your life if another comes along then he will come. don't worry about it. OR............
you can focus on looking for qualities that you want in a man.... namely honesty being #1. Meaning that he won't lie to you about anything, because someone that will lie to you about a little thing will lie to you about a big thing. Then you can also work on yourself in the meantime. Find out who you are where you want to be in life. SO ... don't look at it negatively, live life and enjoy every minute above ground
2006-10-01 04:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take it one day at a time to heal from the hurt. Once you get over that part and feel your ready to date try it slowly. Trust me there is no rush. Especially with kids you have to take it real slow. I am so sorry for your lost.
2006-10-01 04:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you once loved him and that love is still there. It may take a while to move on until a man that really really loves you comes along to make you forget about your ex.
2006-10-01 04:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really takes a long time to move on because you had been hurt so deeply...
its hard i know..
but your the one who's making it more harder..
why?? you still thinking of hm.. your asking your self "is he alright?", "did he move on that easily?" "did he a;ready forgotten about me??"
your the one who's making it worst for your self....
but only time will decide when to heal your broken heart..
just stop thinking about him to much or your past memories with him... but if you really cant forget about it...
have a good laugh for your self.. because you had love somone who love someone else... or just think about this.. God made this decision for you.. to find the person who you will really share your whole life with.. okay?
just laugh.. laugh at your self making the biggest mistake of your life.. and be proud.. that once in your life you had experience something more hurtful and more unbelievable..
2006-10-01 04:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by 4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women reason with emotion, mean reason more with cold
logic allowing them to move on more easily. Don't fret or push
yourself, ease up and let go and become your own woman instead of a slave to lost relationship.....pamper yourself a little
and look in the mirror and like what you see......Chin UP
2006-10-01 04:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we should never hold onto hope, he cheated on you and if he did come back when things didn't work out he would only cheat again, get some self respect for yourself, meet someone new. you don't ever take a man back who cheated on you, this was where his heart was, not with you.try and stop thinking about him.
2006-10-01 04:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋