my inlaws are creating probs in my married life. my husband is financialy dependent on them due to which they are emotionaly foolinghim .if i talk to my husband he starts fighting with me as they r teaching him against me & my parents .he has plans to go abroad in which they r helping him bt only on this condition that he will not take me with him.When asked my husband says he cant live without me but at the same time he cant leave his parents also.
2006-10-01 03:56:38 · 5 answers · asked by rimps 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Youre married to a mommas boy. When he married you, you should have been placed high priority to him before his parents no matter what. Hes letting his parents control him because hes too afraid to stand up to them for you. This looks like this will be quite an uphill battle for you unless you can seperate the two.and if you cant, nothing will change so ask yourself if youre better off with him or without him, and make sure youre the most important person in his life. Dont let his parents destroy you emotionally. Good luck
2006-10-01 04:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to knock this on the head now hun. My first problem is the fact that he is allowing his parents to treat you the way they do and not support YOU thru it, which leads to my second point which is that because of this they're are playing a major part in your relationship. I'm not sure if you want to hear my third but I'll say it anyway, your husband is really weak he needs to grow some nuts and fend for himself. The solution is that you need to sit your husband down and set how the conversation is going to go i.e Explain to him that there are things that you need to talk to him about and that if he respects you he needs to hear you out without interruption. Go away and write down everything thats going on for you (KEYPOINT is NO emotion STICK TO THE POINT!).
You need to make a choice within yourself which is are you prepared to leave him for the good of your relationship. What I mean by this is that your husband will not fully understand whats going on until you run an earthquake through his life. The only way he will change is if you present the altermatum that he chooses you meaning supporting you in the marriage or he chooses his parents. IF he chooses his parents YOU NEED TO LEAVE, if you don't leave you will need to find a way to deal with the situation because it won't change.
Good luck!!! Hope for the best.
2006-10-01 11:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to be an ADULT and a MAN and stand up to his parents...but that won't happen, so get a good Divorce attorney and see what you can get...
2006-10-01 11:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of this guys,hes not worth being with.....if he cant take a stand for his wofe what else can you expect for him,dont ruin your life behind him,move on and find someone better!!good luck!!
2006-10-01 10:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in your shoes.you and your husband need to get far away from the inlaws.
2006-10-01 11:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by alic s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋