I have this friend. We are friends and we hang out a lot. classmates, same cliches. i really want the best for her. and this girl whom i trust a lot told me that my friend backstabbed me! tell me what i should do? =(
2006-10-01 03:13:05 · 18 answers · asked by jingz2404 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Before you jump to any conclusions it would be best to confront your friend with the information that the other person told you (there is the possibility that this person has their own agenda for causing a rift).
If indeed some backstabbing has occurred then you could try finding out the motives behind it and working on a solution together.
Remember we all make mistakes from time to time so confronting the issue is really the best way to be able to make an informed decision which may include forgiveness.
If this is not possible then maybe this person was not really the friend you thought they were.
2006-10-01 03:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to find out if its true or not (because you can't believe what people say), if is true talk to your "friend" about it. If it was true and it wasn't a major backstabbing forgive her (Forgiving is for yourself not for the other person) but if it was something unforgiveable then tell her that you know that its true and there is no way that you can ever forgive her. You can still be friends but the trust between you two is very limited.
If your "friend" really did betray you, be careful (If she did it once, she'll do it again). Remember that after 3 strikes she out. Youre better off without her. (Your "friend" may not be a true friend after all)
2006-10-01 04:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a true, honest-to-goodness letter. If you are really definite on the one-on-one, then do that one-on-one thing and be confident, firm, and smiling through it all. Sweetheart, show everyone that that loser is a loser and there is nothin' you got to lose, 'cause she's the loser and you're the winner, whether you win somethin' like when playin' cards or winnin' a fight, well whatever, 'cause you're the best and you know it!
2006-10-01 08:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by sPrInG LiLY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world there are a lot of such people and there is no way you can elimate them. One of the simpest way is just to ignored them but people may feel that you are proud of yourself. There is no way that how to treat a backstabber unless you become another backstabber. This is the only way that they can taste their own medicine. But how will people see you from their angle, I believe you have the answer to this question.
2006-10-01 04:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she did back stab you. But really you have to ask yourself do you really want someone like that in your life? I mean rally obviously you can;t trust her if she stabbed you int he back. Why would you ever want to tell her anything again so she can use it against you . I would confront her on it and if she comes up with some lame excuse i would say you know me and you were done. And them call it a day .
2006-10-01 03:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by kibbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well doesn't every friend backstabb each other? my friends backstabbs me i don't really care if they even do. Thats what friends are for to talk crap, laugh with and other things friends do. So don't make it a big deal out of it. You'll be bless if you let it go! ok! =D
2006-10-01 04:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Element 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't believe everything you hear. You never know which of your "friends" is lying.
Just watch what you say to your friends for awhile until you figure out who is not being your friend,
then stop being friends with that person.
2006-10-01 03:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by anabele6 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell that person on what they did to hurt you but whatever you don't try to handle the situation with violence or animosity cause that will just make things worse, after you tell them that tell them that they could continue being your friend but they'll just have earn your trust all over again.
2006-10-01 03:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by The_World_Is_Mine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let it fester. Ask her about it. If it is true, dump her. But remember, the one who told you about it could be the true culprit here. What are HER motives? And there is always the chance that she heard it, (interpreted it,) wrong.
2006-10-01 03:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋