My brother in laws ex-girlfriend used to be a good friend of mine. And she did something dispicable and we got into a fight and at the time I was pregnant and she said that she hoped that my baby would die. I have not talked to her since and my brother in law and her broke up. Well, my b-in-l and her started talking again and she said that she wanted to come over here and talk to me. I told my husband no. He started attacking my christianity. I said that I have forgiven her but that does not mean that I have to see her. Basically I don't trust her. He ignored anything that I said and he allowed her to come over and basically FORCED her on me. ( she at one time tried to seduce my husband). The whole thing was uncomfortable for me and she was acting like a condescending b...... He completely disrespected me and I am very upset and I tried to explain to him the way that I felt and he just acts like he does not understand at all! So what can I do?
2006-10-01 02:46:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Act like a lady. When confronted by a lady and a (fill in word of choice), the difference between a lady and the other will become obvious to all. She was able to take advantage of the situation because you allowed her to. That's not to say you have to invite her over, or that you have to have more than a passing polite conversation with her. There is more than one way to skin a cat, you know. The next time you have to have contact with her, make her squirm with your politeness. She already knows what she is, and you know what she is. No need to sink to her level. I'd explain things to your husband when you are both calm and be sure to remember not to say "you did this" or "you did that". Say I feel like ...., I felt uncomfortable.... Or even the honest, I forgave but I haven't forgotten yet and I'm not likely to. See if you can't reach a compromise with him about having her over only when family affairs require it.
2006-10-01 02:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something real fishy is going on if your husband would force you to accept this woman. As far as attacking your Christianity, that is low. You can forgive someone in your heart, but that does not mean that you are required to welcome them into your life. If you forgave a women that he had an affair with, would you then be expected to have her over for dinner. Forgiveness and friendship do not go hand in hand. A person who could wish your baby dead has no place in your home. She is dangerous , keep her away. And I don't care WHO it is, your husband should support YOU, particularly since you are not a guilty party. Think of someone that you KNOW he wouldn't want in his home, and ask him how he's feel if you invited that person over anyway.
2006-10-01 03:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Coco 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is solid. in specific circumstances, being a determine potential making a baby study from his very own errors. If he's 17 and owes over $seven-hundred in fines, his in the back of would desire to be accessible earning a paycheck. i began out working when I became sixteen and worked by extreme college. there is not any reason he would be unable to do an identical. What i might recommend nonetheless is which you inspire your husband and your son to spend an entire weekend collectively - no count if that be going tenting or someplace the place it rather is in simple terms the two one among them without distractions and notice in the event that they are able to paintings out their adjustments and are available to an awareness. If not the rest, enable them to circulate to an area lodge or some thing and as awkward because it would desire to look, have them share a room. yet whilst i became into on your husband's place, i might take an identical stand. If he's going to stay there whilst he turns 18 he desires to be working and paying a minimum of a bill or 2. he's virtually an grownup and he desires to commence performing like one. if he would not have a place to circulate, it rather is because of the fact he's in line with you to bail him out. he's desirous to take great ingredient approximately you and not be a genuine guy. in specific circumstances momma birds would desire to push their toddlers out of the nest into the genuine international to instruct them to fly!
2016-10-15 09:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if your husband wants this woman around, even if it means making you unhappy. The time has come to give hubby an ultimatum about this problem. If he won't follow through, look long and hard at the type of future you are going to have with him.
2006-10-01 02:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by movedtoMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a grown up you decide who you want to be friends with, it's your brother in laws business if he wants to get back together with her and if your husband wants to be cool with her that's his call as well. But if I was you I would watch my back maybe your husband feels flattered that she came on to him?! You don't have to let her in your house if you don't want to and what you feel should be more important to your husband then his brothers girl friend STAND UP FOR YOURSELF GIRL!
2006-10-01 03:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a total tool, he should back you, defend you, and take you side unconditionally when it comes to someone outside of the marriage, to push that on you is B.S. and to question your faith because of your reluctance is crap too. He needs to be slapped. maybe you should remind him that the woman also wished HIS child to die too, unless of course she is sleeping with him, in that case dump him and find a real man to be with.
2006-10-01 03:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by cabledog429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is not respecting you, and it seems he wants her around. Maybe her seduction is starting to work.
You should MAKE him understand. Don't stop til it works, unless you want her to keep coming and feel uncomfortable again and again?
2006-10-01 03:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him what he did was totally disrespectable to you, and you did not appreciate it. tell him this is your house too, and you have the right also to say who can come over.
Then tell her you did not appreciate her flirting with your husband, and that she is no longer welcome at your house.
STAND YOUR GROUND!!!!! A marriage is about partnership, and you have the right to have your voice heard.
Good luck....your husband sounds like an uncaring jerk about your feelings.
2006-10-01 02:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a day time soap oprah.
2006-10-01 02:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Leshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him respect or i am gone, you might even have to scare him a little if he does it again walk out the door, and stay gone untill he learns his lesson.
2006-10-01 04:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by armysniperwife20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋