one of my frnd who is gud in everything but he failed in 1 subject this time due to sum problem although he gt gud marks in other subjects but is totally dishearted ,depressed,&felling lonely he does not share his fellings with ever1 n pretends 2 be ok but i know he's not fine he has a big aim but now he thinks he is gud 4 nothing wat to do?
2006-10-01 02:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't make assumptions about what the affected person needs; ask them.
Be predictable; don't surprise them.
Let the person with the disorder set the pace for recovery.
Find something positive in every experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular goal, such as a movie theater or party, consider that an achievement rather than a failure.
Don't enable avoidance: negotiate with the person with panic disorder to take one step forward when he or she wants to avoid something.
Don't sacrifice your own life and build resentments.
Don't panic when the person with the disorder panics.
Remember that it's all right to be anxious yourself; it's natural for you to be concerned and even worried about the person with panic disorder.
Be patient and accepting, but don't settle for the affected person being permanently disabled.
Say: "You can do it no matter how you feel. I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay in the present. It's not the place that's bothering you, it's the thought. I know that what you are feeling is painful, but it's not dangerous. You are courageous."
Don't say: "Relax. Calm down. Don't be anxious. Let's see if you can do this (i.e., setting up a test for the affected person). You can fight this. What should we do next? Don't be ridiculous. You have to stay. Don't be a coward."
2006-10-01 02:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by CK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to know a girl like this in my school. She got everything right all the time and then one time, just that once, she got something wrong. She was miserable for weeks on end thinking she was a failure.
At first i tried to cheer her up about it but that seemed to annoy her even more. Instead i just acted around her how i would normally and she started to talk about it when she was ready.
The best advice i could give is to carry on being the great friend you obviously are, or you wouldn't be so concerned, and then when he's ready to come out of it and talk to you I'm sure he will.
If he carries on pretending to be OK then i really don't think there's anything you can do. Just try to be there for him as best you can.
2006-10-01 09:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you really can do is be a good friend to him, spend time with him, and point out his good qualities. Some classes are just tough and it takes a 2nd round to understand them. He's being too hard on himself and probably the issue is a lot deeper than just a poor grade in school. He seems to be expecting perfection out of himself, but it's okay to go a second round on a more difficult challenge. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Just don't give up. Eh?
2006-10-01 09:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well saying of thinkin optimistically sounds very easy but the prsn whi faces cant really c it optimisticaly. i guess the only way to make him thnk better is to keep remeindin that entire life is an exam n many ppl keep failing. Example of Abharim Lincon is always a source of inspiration. i always start again whn i fail witha more vigour n passion bcz there burns a fire to defeat my defeat.suppuort frm home n frnds is a must,avoid citing suck evidences which reminds him of his failure,rather always talk abt a new way n new style to do new things.
2006-10-01 11:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Encourage her to come here at this Yahoo question/answer platform and let her see what the world says for her depression! Yu may take my word she will forget for ever to be depressed again in the life.
2006-10-01 12:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rohit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well failing in one subjest is not the end of his life. But i wish you did mention how much he scored. I mean for the clever ones out there 80% is a fail. Take him for a stroll daily and let him know there's always a next chance
2006-10-01 09:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kiran urf msa sis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really hard times.You have to be sympathetic and kind.Use comforting words.Tell him heaven doesn't fall if a guy fails in one exam.It can always be made up.To be courageous and face things squarely only helps.Ask him to study hard in future.He will pass with distinction.
2006-10-01 10:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by jaggu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. Let him cry out his pain. After sometime slowly try to convince him.Do no give any clue that you are advicing him.
2006-10-01 09:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by Brainy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
present him with all his options and try to make him think optimistically. help if u can or suggest plases he can get help with that subject and remember from our failures and mistakes come lifes greatest lessons
2006-10-01 09:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
spend more time with him do not let him be alone & you can also go for a trip he will feel better as atmosphere will change, take him to movie do every thing whit he likes
2006-10-01 09:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by riti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋