last night our Neighbour said he was going to kill us both and bring us to our Graves,his Father is a brutal man.When i go to work in the morning what should i do to know my wife is safe at home alone????
2006-10-01 02:21:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
Call the police and file a complaint. You were threatened. Report it each time you're threatened. The more you report, the more you'll be taken seriously. If he threatens you enough, you may be able to get restraining orders, etc.
If you don't report it, you have no official record of the threats taking place and you'll be taking your chances.
2006-10-01 02:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by T_Jania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told us much about the nature of your disagreement with the neighbor. Maybe he's a nut-bar, but then again, maybe you're doing something to provoke him that you could stop doing. Until I moved away, a few months ago, I was locked into poisonous hostility with my kooky upstairs neighbors for four years. And because I perpetuated that hostility by being contemptuous toward them, I was partly responsible for the ugliness that ruined our home lives so unnecessarily; something that I'll never do again, with any neighbor.
On the other hand, if the neighbor is actually threatening to kill you and your wife, and the risk is plausible, then things have gone way too far, and you should proceed directly to the police to file a complaint and, if necessary, get a restraining order.
Ultimately, however, I agree with the seemingly zany suggestion of another writer here: YOU should take the initiative to break the cycle of hostility by taking some sincerely friendly gestures that the neighbor doesn't expect. You will probably have to be the bigger person on several rounds of interaction with your neighbor, since he will interpret with initial skepticism your efforts to reach out to him. If you want to change the tenor of your relationship, you will have to keep back coming to him, saying "I don't want this conflict with you. I don't want this conflict with you," until the message finally gets through. If the neighbor is normal, he will eventually drop his shields; if the neighbhor is psychopathological, then you might have a bigger problem on your hands, a problem that only law enforcement (and/or a move) can settle.
2006-10-01 03:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hunter M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops right away. And when you talk to them be very bold about what you are saying. Make sure you lock all windows and doors, and keep a phone near by. If you do not have small children load a pistol and keep it in an easily reachable spot just in case.
When you talk to the police tell them what you are going to do and maybe they will see how urgent the matter really is.
2006-10-01 03:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely tell the police,nobody has the right to threaten you.Do you know what his problem with you and your wife is?Perhaps a member of your local council or church could try to find out why he's being so threatening towards you.Is there somewhere your wife can stay while you're at work at least until the police have spoken to him.
2006-10-01 02:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police NOW! You should have done that last night. Once its on file if anything happens they are then aware. Tomorrow take your wife to somewhere safe for the day (better to be safe than sorry). What on earth have you done for this to have happened?
2006-10-01 02:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by deebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A restraining order pops to mind. Document everything. Call the cops and report the threats every single time! Make sure the house is all locked up, and she has a cell phone. I'm against violence, but it wouldn't hurt to have a weapon in case. He's terrorizing you in your own home!
2006-10-01 04:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done this last night. Call 911!!
That will scare the guy. The mere sight of a cop or two always scares that kind of scum.
They are ignorant, but they know that they are in trouble if they ever try anything. If they are stupid enough to actually try something...tell your wife to shoot them after they get in the house. They started it and a death threat is not something to take lightly nowadays!
2006-10-01 02:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi m8
go to police station yourself and report it
dont call them out as its only going to escalate it
chances are it could settle down
if as you say fathers brutal man hes probably already had dealings with police and as such police coming out telling them off will do you no good
there are laws in place to protect you but the reality of it is that none will be able to stop it overnight, unless there is actual violence against you.
you need to be able to present evidence of any abuse etc
start (secretly) video taping, keeping logs (time date etc) of anything that happens to you or your property, this way they cannot argue or talk there way out of it
you have to use your head and not rush in, think what your doing and how to use it to your advantage
i know been in the same situation
2006-10-01 02:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by jo s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lou75 is spot on. Go and live somewhere distant from such "neighbours". It's the only sure way to stop that malevolence ruining your life. The law is useless, as is taking it into your own hands. Best wishes.
2006-10-01 02:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your neighbour plenty of abuse just dont stand there and take it. Inform the police and lock all the windows and doors. Put the police and your work number on speed dial.
2006-10-01 02:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Throat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋