My man and I have been going out for 8 months, and we are both 18. He keeps bugging me to have sex with him and it is really borthering me. I told him and he says that it bugs him that I wont do it. We get along about everything and then one of us will mention the sex issue and we will just be crabby the rest of the day. what should i do??
2006-10-01 02:21:32 · 23 answers · asked by tabatha1333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do whatever YOU feel comfortable with and don't worry about it. if he really cares about you, he will not pressure you to do anything you don't want to do.
2006-10-01 02:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it sounds like he has a respect issue. If he truly cares about you, the way you seem to care about him don't you think he'd weight until you felt ready to have sex. I'm also 18 and my boyfriend and I have been together for a realtively long time. He's amazing and before we decided to become active I was the one who had to make the first move. He'd talk about it all the time, but he never really acted apon it.
Maybe your boyfriend would be the one to back out if you two really ended up attempting it. I think that he if he keeps bugging you about it though, that might be the signal telling you, that you need to either tell him your feeling disrespected because hes pushing you or you need to tell him this isn't working. I know it would be hard 8 months is a long time for 18 year olds. And I'm sure you care a lot about him. Maybe you should tell him, when your ready you'll let him know. So this way maybe he'll stop.
I don't really know the situation, but I hope I helped a little. Good Luck Hun.
2006-10-01 09:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you BUT understand this IT IS YOUR BODY, you can do with it whatever you choose and that is the ONLY way to look at this. He is trying hard to have you make a choice you do not want to make. Have sex when you are ready and NOT until. I have seen so many times that when the boys get the sex he is onto another conquest.
Tell him if he keeps pushing this issue the relationship is over. If he pushes it again then understand he really does not respect you and there are other men who will.
Best of luck to you I respect your strength on this issue as do many others that have replied.
2006-10-01 10:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is for 2 consenting adults. You obviously are not consenting for a reason, whatever it may be..... Men like the act... it is plain and simple.. self gratification.. women are looking for love to link with the act of making love..
I would think that you are not ready for this... The amount of time spent in a relationship is not the key... You both have to be ready and mature enough to make the decision.. Do not give it away under pressure.. you will hate yourself later.... When you have sought out the precautions necessary and have found the right person in your life , only then will it happen.... In this day and age, taking on a sexual partner casually, can lead to disasterous results, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Wait until you are ready....If he needs to move on , let him........ Do not compromise your moral standards and ideals for anyone....
2006-10-01 09:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure about the partner or just maybe inexperienced in the act then talk with some friends about it. If they make fun of you then they are not friends. You know when you will be comfortable with this. If your partner loves you they should understand. Don't be pressured into anything in a relationship you don't feel comfortable about. Sex is a beautiful thing when shared between two people who really love each other. You have to work with each other, but you both have your morals.
2006-10-01 09:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know-sex leads to having children. Having a child takes 18-21 yrs of being responsible for everything this child needs-and being responsible for their wrong doings,supplying everything that child needs-food clothing medication,a baby sitter,and an education. This happens when teenage sex happens. I can see you are at least thinking and haven't given in and you deserve a blue ribbon thus far.
Get your education first-all of it, then decide if you are ready to have sex & be a parent.Teenage sex leads to children without a father,mother or both. It usually leads to poverty & most always hardships to all the family. Please wait on sex, find a young man that has the same principles as you-not to have sex. Remember this-when in doubt---DON'T
2006-10-01 09:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the ground rules. If you want to wait, then wait. Tell him you are not ready. Try having 'sex' with him by staring into his eyes. it's a good clean why to have an o and easily attained by anyone.
good luck.
2006-10-01 09:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jilli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know because i left a girl cause she would not have sex dont be pressured if you really dont want to you dont have to its your decision youll be ok with out it in my relationship my gal pal likes to go sucking arround socializing and tell me she cant trust me when i been nothing but honest i just cant help after i give them all the loving in the world they still want to fool arround and then blame me that i cant be trusted what ever thats hogwash you could have and ive had sex with them there always pressering me and i part with my belifs thinking i have to comprimise alittle um no so sex really makes no difference at all its dumb i been loyal to this person and they find more dreaming halusinations that im doing things up to no good when im putting up with that krap they have fooled arround on me one to many times and i been loyal for what and i had sex for what to expose my self to stds thats wonderfull hope you know them really well and fight is healthy alittle there forgetting about me when there fooling arround you could have that sounds fun dont it
2006-10-01 09:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your morals and don't have sex until you are ready.but don't be surprised if he threatens to get it elsewhere if you don't have sex with him.but if he loves you and cares about your feelings he will understand that you want to wait,but 8 months is a long time.I don't want to get too personal,but have you ever had sex?Would he be your first?
2006-10-01 09:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if that's why he's with you then to scram he's not worth your time or energy.
Sex is something wonderful and it needs both of you not only him to get pleasure.
Dont give in as its likely he'll dump you if gets sex.
2006-10-01 09:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Evana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him... if he really loves you sex wont matter and he will wait until you are ready.... if he doesnt love you enough to wait than thats not the person you want to be with anyway and hes going to end up cheating on you...
2006-10-01 09:24:11 · answer #11 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋