i have been in a relationship know for like 5 months with a freind on mines that i have been freinds with for the last 9 years and we just decided to take the freinship further into a relationship,the only thing that bothers me is her daughter that is six is the kid from hell she is rude,doesn't listen and she runs her mother,like at times i cant tell who the kid is,her daughter will change the tv on me even if she see's me watching it for an hour,and my girlfreind excuses is that i am on her daughters turf,but i wanna tell my girlfreind that she always has excuses for her child being bad,her kid is 6 and she has to lay down in the bed with her child to make her go to sleep like she is 6 months old,i wanna say something to my girlfreind but i dont know how to say it in the right way,but i feel like her not displing her kid is gonna be the end of me and her sooner or later,even though i do like my girlfreind but not her thinking her daughter can do no wrong or always making excuses
2006-10-01 01:27:27 · 12 answers · asked by bigboi64 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-01 01:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by KH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH MAN tread lightly here. Talk with ur girl but make sure that u r careful not to insult her or the kid. Be honest. I have had a couple of gf's that had kids and I have always made it my position that they don't have to like me but they will respect me. The other solution is to start setting some boundaries with the kid on your own. Rather than making a big spectacle that the kid is not disciplined talk with mom and tell her that you refuse to allow a six yr old to treat u this way. By the way while you guys may have been dating for a while she is kind of right about the turf thing. She is seeing that now she does not have mommy all to herself anymore. Most importantly if you are serious about a relationship with the mom. Get involved with the kid. Do things with her go to the park or mcdonald's or just play games with her at home. Anyway you go good luck, ur gonna need it.
2006-10-01 08:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does need discipline but you must remember her mother has for a long time had to cope alone and therefore its not easy for her to share discipline. Perhaps you could go on a parenting course or reading a parenting book together. Explain to her that you are concerned about her behviour because she cannot go around doing what she likes because she will get rejected by others if she does not respect them. You want to dicipline her for her own good in the long run. remember alos she is only six so do not expect to much for her, remember also she is not used to having a man around so start gently. Also try to be friends with her, give her attention, this will gain her trust, play basket ball or somethng with her, kids need attention, she needs to know you are not a threat and will not take her mothers attention away from her. Don,t have to high expections from her she is a kid and they do mess up. I hope all goes well. I pray for you Denise.
2006-10-01 08:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this relationship to work you should take a step back. By being around in their house your just going to wind yourself up. Dont go to your girlfriends house for a while. Take it slower. Take her out for a meal. Stay overnight in a hotel. Do things with your girlfriend for a while. Im sure you didnt want an instant family you just wanted a relationship with your girlfriend. The little girl may just be acting up more cause your taking her Mother away as she sees it. Ive been in a relationship where I couldnt stand my ex's daughter, it got so bad I couldnt even listen to him talk to her, it made me sick, so trust me you need to either try taking it slower or walk away.Honestly though because of my experience I tell all my friends just not to get involved with people with children. If you feel this way about the mother with her child, just wait till you see the Daddy with her, ex's are hard to see alllllll the time.
2006-10-01 08:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by pixilated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck!I know exactly how you feel.I can tell you this,you can hold it all in all you want but eventually it will come to a face.Be open and positive with your girlfriend about how you feel.If its gonna work then you will see the changes.Im not saying you will see them overnight.It has taken 6yrs for her to get where shes at.She wont change overnight but it will happen if your girlfriend sets her mind to it.Dont be distracted if their is times she still acts this way,she is a 6yr old.If your girlfriend things that its all ok and normal then basically accept it or move on.I lived this and know first hand how you feel.Good luck!
2006-10-01 08:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by porkchophaynes0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it.I mean stay out of the relationship.you can't intervene b/c the child is use to a certain treatment from her mom and you will be an interference to the child.If the mother thinks all she is doing is good then you don't have a chance.stay friends,but stop the relationship now. you can't make anything between them change that has to come when the mother feels change is due. sorry.
2006-10-01 08:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it ..it is not your kid..When you have your own ,then things will change and you will see what I am talking about.
You have nothing to say about your girlfriend's daughter changing the channel on you,if you want to go watch tv..go home and watch it at your place.
Next time that happens ,just get up and leave.and see what your girlfriend says about that. ..she will get the hint.
It is not up to you to make decisions on children that are not yours,and you have no right to tell your girlfriend how to raise her children either..you are her boyfriend ..that's it..and until that changes.like you get married.,you have no rights and nothing to say..so get used to it .
If you try and discipline her children.that will be your ticket out of that relationship..guaranteed.,so if that's what you want ..keep opening your mouth to her about her kids.
If you want to keep your girlfriend,bite your tongue about her children and don't say anything about her children at all.
2006-10-01 08:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sure would not put up with it and find another. There is no way you will ever win this one. Get the hell out and find someone else. FAST
2006-10-01 08:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were no to me and came into my house u shouldnt expect me to treat you like my dad just cuz ur datin my mom i wouldnt listen to you either now what goez on between her and her mom now thats different
2006-10-01 08:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest talking to her about discipline.
2006-10-01 08:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by novagirl117 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋