Im 15 and pregnant and i dont want to tell my parents =[ i dont no what to do :( and im scared.....?

Question

im 15 and i am pregant im scared to tell my parents and my dad told me he did'nt want anything to do with it if i did :( what can i do ???

My dad is angry as he as lost his job so i think i wont tell him yet......

Answer 1

You really have to tell them. Like it or not @ 15 you are their responsibility. And right now you need all the support you can get. Yes, it's going to suck telling them and they may be very angry. But none the less they need to know, so you guys can plan the best course of action. They are your parents they love you, and trust me every parent worries about this moment for their little girls from the time they hit puberty until they become adults and out on their own. So, though this may be their worst fear, it certainly isn't something that hasn't already crossed their minds.

Shoot our little one isn't even here yet, nor do we know yet whether is a boy or a girl, but papa and I have already discussed how we hope to handle a situation like this if it should arise in our future as parents.

And please don't listen to all the a$$holes above passing judgments about your age. They have no right to pass judgment on you. Until they have taken steps in your shoes they have no understanding of the fear & confusion that you are going through. Whats done is done, and you need to make the most responsible decision that is right for you and yours. Reguardless of what you decide to do, you will have to live with that decision for the rest of your life...so choose wisely.

Answer 2

Sweetie,
Unfortunately, we all make mistakes, but it's the next move you make that will determine if it's a mistake for life. I know you're afraid of what your parents may say, but let's face it, the damage has been done and this is something that needs to be resolved immediately.
Your first step is to tell your parents. Yes, you are in for some disappointed looks from your parents, even some yelling and a big lecture. After the emotions have passed, common sense will settle in.
You are their daughter, parents give unconditional love and they only want what's best for you. You have options and they need to be discussed.
(1) You need to be tested for HIV and any other sexual transmitted diseases.
(2) You can have an abortion - I don't know what your religous beliefs are, but it is an option that is available. Some people view an abortion as a way out of a difficult situation, a way to correct a wrong. The rememberance of this action will stay with you for the rest of your life, but hopefully it will keep you from making this mistake again until you are older, more mature and capable of taking care of yourself financially and emotionally.
(3) You can have the baby and give it up for adoption. If you feel you and your family can not provide for this baby the best of possiblities in life, why not give it a chance to a wonderful life and give the gift of life to a deserving family that can't have children but desparately wants children.
(4).You can keep the baby. Your family will give her/him unconditional love because the baby is a part of you. They will give you support, even if it's a struggle to make it. A baby gives joy and happiness in the most precious way.
You must realize your parents were teenagers, too, and I'm sure during their youthful days they've done something that was not approved by their parents.
Life is a journey of mistakes, errors, triumphs, successes and consequences. Choose what is best for you, what you can live with and what you can't live without.

Answer 3

I had my first daughter when I was 14. Actually I was 4 days away from my 15th birthday. Just something you've gotta do is tell them. Tell your mom first. LOL mom's are usually more understanding and can calm dad down a bit. Do you want to keep the baby, have you thought of your options? Where is the father of the baby? Your mom and dad will be very mad and upset in the beginning. Try not to get mad at them because they're only upset because they love you and want what's best for your future. They will soon get over it and try to help you work out what you can do for yourself. Good luck hun. If you need to talk you can email me at [e-mail] and I've provided a link below to a site where lots of teen moms get together and talk and support one another and share stories on how they're doing and how they told their moms and dads as well. I frequently visit that page as well because I think they are all wonderful girls. :) Oh and if you visit that link- don't watch that stupid video on there- it's got really bad acting and dramatics. It makes everyone mad. :)

Answer 4

Well 1st off do you wanna even have this baby? If so you need to get parental care and you will probably have to find a place to live. I donno what state you live in but there are many places you can go, like low income housing.. I would put your name on a list right away! Then you need to figure out how you will pay for baby. Finally you have to tell your parents, they love you and may be angry at 1st. I got pg at 16. My parents were sooo angry but over time it was easier, i still had to pay for everything on my own but my parents let me stay at their home till i was able to move. By the time i was 17 i was out on my own with a full time job and living in low income. I am 26 and married now. But i have to warn , cause i've been there it is very hard and you really have to be the adult ! That baby depends on you. Good Luck and i hope everything works out!

Answer 5

What your dad told you before your pregnancy and what will happen when you tell him now are too different things.

You have to tell your parents, in most states there isn't any way around it.

You were "grown up" enough to have sex, now you cannot revert back to a little kid and not take responsibility for your actions. Talk to your parents, there will be a lot of hurt, anger, and things will never be the same, but it will be the second step on your journey to becoming an adult.

Answer 6

Hmm..Im In The Same Situation As You...Strange...Anyways... I've Just Told My Antie About It And She Said She'll Help Me Talk To My Partents And If The Don't Want To Help Me She'll Stick By Me...You Could Do Something Like That Too...x

Answer 7

I know how you feel..i got pregnant when i was your age and i had an abortion and i never told my parents. I told them two years ago..they were shocked and upset that i went through by myself but i knew they would disowned me. But it turn out they didnt. Some parents are difficuit to deal with..which can be unfair.

Im twenty now, and i look back and think i made a right decision.

It is up to you what you want to do..if you want a good career then maybe its best not to keep it.

Think you should go to a clinic they are really helpful and give you advice. Trust me.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Of course you don't want to tell them! None of us want our parents to be disappointed in us! You've made a mistake, but it's not the end of the world! No matter what your dad said before, it was probably meant as a deterrent, so you wouldn't take the chance. Now that you're way past that point, you are just gonna have to be brave! Go to your father first! Tell him you really need help, and you trust him to give you good advice! By telling him first, you won't run the risk of him being the "last to know!" And you will be less likely to cause problems between him and mom, since mom's are usually more compassionate about such matters. It is not going to be easy, but once it's told, you are going to be so relieved! You need to do it as soon as possible sweetie, for the sake of the baby! My daughter got pregnant as a teen also! She told me first, expecting me to be the one to tell dad! I said no, you have to tell him yourself! She thought he was gonna blow up! Instead he walked over and wrapped his arms around her, and told her everything would be okay, and it was! I have a beautiful grand-daughter that I got to help take care of! She is nine years old now, and her grand-pa is wrapped around her little finger! Good luck, and don't be scared!

Answer 9

work out what you want first i.e are you keeping it, secondly have you got an older sister or someone that's older than you that you see and someone you can trust, tell them ask them for advice. But if you want to keep it then i'm afraid that you'll have to face the consequences of what has happened, or you could have just gone and got the morning after pill!

By the way parents always say that but once the baby is born, they will not leave it alone!

Answer 10

Honey it will be ok! Wait a little while make sure you are comfortable when you decide to tell them, Im 15 also! I was pregnant a while back and i knew telling my parents would get me a one way trip to the streets, (but i was happy, i loved my un-born baby, and his/ her dad) but a few weeks before i knew i was going to have to break down and tell my parents, i stoped having symptoms, my stomach went back to normal, and i started bleeding heavy, and right then i knew i had lost it, so what im trying to get to is, mak sure your ready to tell them, and when you are and your into about your 3rd or 4th month, it might be a little better to have another person help you tell them, like i have a cousin who is 26 and i can tell her anything and she is so understanding and if i wouldve had to tell my parents, i wouldve asked her if she might could come and help me tell them!, but if you dont have anyone like that that you can look up to, then just talk to the parent your closer to, sit down and tell them now i know i have made mistakes, but god doesnt make mistakes and this baby isnt one, tell them your plans and maybe theyll be a little understanding, and as much as i would like to say that no matter what theyll always love you, i dont know your parents and that isnt always the case but good luck!
Oh and go to http://youngmommys.tripod.com maybe itll help you alittle bit!