I love to masturbate a lot. However, I'm in a relationship with a good guy now. The problem is that while masturbating, I fantasize me having sex with another female and not him (well, have I mentioned that I'm a bisexual??)
Once he caught me playing with myself and to be honest, I'm not thinking about him while doing that....
I love him and he loves me. He's known that I'm a bisex and he still accepts me the way I am.... Tell me, then, have I done something bad here? Have I betrayed his love and trust...?
2006-09-30 23:39:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Fantasizing isn't betraying. Masturbating doesn't have anything to do if you are in a good or bad relationship. It doesn't mean that sex isn't good or that you don't love him enough. More likely he masturbates too and he might not think about you. Maybe he is thinking in the hot bartender or in Angelina Jolie. That doesn't mean he is betraying you. And well if he feels uncomfortable that you masturbate just let him know that you love him and that masturbating is something you really enjoy and if he wants to do the same you wouldn't feel challenged by it. Who cares if while you play with yourself you are fantasizing about whomever it's just that a fantasy. Pleasure shouldn't bring guilt or regrets just enjoy!
2006-10-01 05:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by petit chat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done nothing wrong.
Fantasy is fantasy. If you do ever have sex with another woman, make sure you let him know (it sounds like you're in a commited relationship).
You can certainly disregard his feelings in the matter (after all, it's your life, not his) but discussing the matter before hand will be a much better idea.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-01 09:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy is fantasy, my lady! There is no sin or harm with being a bisexual FEMALE. My ex girl friend was a bisexual (although she would never accept that in front of me) but I lived happily with that. So don't worry and enjoy life.
2006-10-01 07:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Achilles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think YOU are the only one who can answer your question. The rest of us can say how WE feel - some will say fantasy is fine; others will say, no, our thoughts are the same as actions. Those answers are fine for the people who give them.
But you have to ask yourself how you feel about it. If it's bothering you, which I assume it is since you asked the question, then maybe it's not a good thing for you. For you, to figure out. ;-)
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2006-10-01 08:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ever Learn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bisexual myself I can honestly say that providing that you love him and don't try to act out your fantasies then there is nothing wrong with exploring that side of you sexuality in your mind.
He probably has fantasies which he would be embaressed to share with you, and they are his personal sexual journies that he would never share with you. Ultimatley as long as your love for him is never diminished by your own inner sexual journies then you have not done anything wrong.
2006-10-01 11:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by silent_paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are treating him right then what's the harm? You are acting out your fantasies in a way that is harmless to him. A betrayal would be if you acted on those fantasies in reality. Indulge yourself and it will strengthen your love for him because you won't feel deprived.
2006-10-01 06:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by barbara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people have mastabatory fantasies outside thier relationship. Quite possibly your boyfriend as well. Dont feel guilty.
2006-10-01 12:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by malcy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are in a relationshiop with this guy. it may make you feel better to tell him. You shouldn;t be fantasizing about others while in a relationship
2006-10-01 12:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as you are not focusing on anyone in particular, and so long as you are not thinking of acting on your fantasies, beyond what you are now, then there is not anything wrong with what you are doing. Our minds are one of the only places we are free.
2006-10-01 06:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by sangheilizim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as u aren't physically wit da girl then u arent betraying anything
2006-10-01 18:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by belle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋