2006-09-30 23:37:00 · 22 answers · asked by brian l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its difficult to continue such relationships. Mistake NO.1 - getting married to such people; Mistake No.2 - getting stuck with such relationships. There are people who have put up with such relationships, but it requires lot of equanimity and mental strength. So you must decide. My advice is, if you are young and have a long way to go in life, sincerely try to sort it out by whatever sacrifice it may require. But if you find your compromise misplaced, please dont' continue this relationship. Part ways and lead a life of your own. May be you'll definitely find someone understanding. Don't take the crap like "that which cannot be cured has to be endured", or "show the left cheek when one slaps at your right cheek", etc. Dont allow yourself to get emotinally blackmailed by people who dont care for you. Dont getted trapped in a wedded life that has no passion in it.
2006-09-30 23:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by zeus_christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by showing love? Kissing, hugging, touching, doing things for you or what? Because she may be showing you love in her way and you are just not noticing it. You may have been hurt at one point and are still fixated on that. Or you may be comparing the first times you were together to the times you are in now and it does not feel the same. Remember you cannot recapture the first kiss and lots of us try to do this, that was special but it does not mean that there is no love in the following caresses. Also find out from her what is wrong, what did you do wrong. Did you have an argument about something that you did wrong and you did not apologise but shoved it under the carpet thinking it was resolved? Did you say any mean things to her? Did you wreck her ego, her feeling of selfworth and now she thinks that you are not worth her love? Ask her, talk to her and show her that your are serious about wanting to resolve the situation. And then be ready for the answers, don't brush her off as silly, jealous, insecure. Answer honestly and gently.And then set things right i.e. carry out what you promise to do, she will see that you have listened. Good luck.
2006-09-30 23:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tansy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly dont take it personally. Tell you a joke first, they say if you married a good wife, then you are really a happy man, and it is a good thing. But if you married a "bad" wife, it is also a good thing, becasue you will come out of it a philosopher. Ok sorry just kidding. But its true just ask socrates. Google search socrates and xantippe, the wife's name.
Ok, seriously, firstly dont take it personally. Secondly it can be turn around. Thirdly you must see her now not the way she is treating you. You must see her as Divine Love see her. See the real her as God the Ultimate Divine Love sees her. And decalare that truth to yourself each day. For that matter you are also created by the same Divine Love. We are all the spiritual idea or expression of Divine Love and we need to tap that source. And a marriage, a union of souls is a spiritual idea, a physical manifestation of the idea of the Divine Mind and Divine Love that so happen also to be Divine Truth. So whatever that is not true in your relationship is just an error in the mind of the Divine Mind which giverns all of us including your wife. Therefore just affirm the that truth of marriage and your wife and also yourself as God sees it. And things will change. Error will disappear and Truth will radiate forth as Love.
2006-10-01 04:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send some flowers and tell her you still love her on the card.
When she thanks you for them ask her what has been going on because you are feeling a little left out of her life recently. Ask if if there is something you could be doing to make things better and if she is honest you will get the answer. If you KNOW what the probelm is then be careful about asking a question you may not want the answer to.
Best of luck to you my friend, you are in the toughest spot for a man to be in, One that the woman you love is making you feel like she is lost and you have no ideas how to find her.
2006-10-01 02:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time this happens when she is feeling less of a woman. Little things mean a lot.
Women and men look at marriage differently.
Men usually feel that if they are providing all the material things that they are doing everything they are soposed to be doing as a husband.
Women on the other hand need two things. They need not to feel like they are your servant (cook, laundry, maid, chauffeur,) and they need to feel special (like they are the only one you live for).
You may think you are doing everything that you can. Try little things.
If you throw your clothes on the floor when you change...pick them up and put them in a hamper or laundry room.
If you don't usually cook a meal...cook a meal once in a while.
If you don't usually talk..ask her about her day.
Hold her hand. Brush your hands through her hair. Kiss her(and not on the cheek!) Tell her you love her.
Most realationships dwindle because of the little things that you forget to do when you get comfortable in a realationship. Remember it does take two to make it work. I hope it works out.
2006-10-01 01:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by desperately seeking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married couples have this thing that when you have it you do not flaunt it.there must be something that you are supposed to do ,you forgot to do or you are still have not done .If you are the breadwinner in the home ,maybe this is the time to sit down and have a serious recap of the goals and achievements that you have together,if she loves you we as women do not resist a good conversation and something will show ,do not jump to conclusions and be a good listener and she will unfold like a flower that she is ,good luck
2006-09-30 23:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women will say "It is always the guys fault "
You may have said one thing wrong and it will be all she remembers ,women don't let anything go ,they will just keep adding to their mental list and be pissed and stay that way long after you have forgotten it.
Your question is what you should do is ask her why and tell her how you feel , things are not working and no children are involved I would say take a walk. End it.
2006-10-01 00:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband gave me this as one of the reasons he had an affair. However, he put nothing into our relationship. He was not romantic and he did not appreaciate anything I did. I am not saying you are doing the same things but marriage takes work from two people. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Do not wait until it is too late!
2006-10-01 04:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a civil conversation with her,find out why she don't want to show you love,she may be going through some depression,or may be having some mental or emotional issues,you need to ask her and not us.talk to her communication is key.
2006-10-01 02:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you not doing for her?? Of you want love you need to give her love. Tell her shes beautiful, help her with things around the house. Instead of turning her into a sperm catcher try pleasing her in bed first. Wonem are emotional creatures. We have to feel loved and cared for and appreciated before we can give those same things to another person.
2006-10-01 00:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋