my family dont like my fiancee and keep telling me u deserve someone better, but we love each other , and i hate it that my family wants me to do what they want . what shall i do
2006-09-30 23:30:17 · 18 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should ask them honestly why they do not like him!
2006-09-30 23:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes family knows what best for you and sometimes they don't like the things you like is typical because everyone have different feelings . Your family doesn't like your boyfriend doesn' mean your life is like hell , they might dislike him because of something they don't like . Your family says that you deserve someone better doesn't mean that boy is not good enough for you , if he's good enough for you well then he is , if your family thinks he's not well you have to make the decision , ignoring your family by having a continous relationships with him or ignore him and find another guy . You should follow your heart
2006-10-01 06:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by joan_axel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why would your family tell you something like that if they didn't have a reason for it? Not that they are right because I don't know but parents want what is best for their kids and since day one they have been with you and they know you the best and when they say things like that maybe you should step back and think...and if that's not the case then good luck and love will over concur all..
2006-10-01 06:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? I would take a step back and try to look at your relationship the way that they see it. It is easy to be blinded by "love", and not see abuse for what it is. IF this man is truly treating you badly, I can only tell you it will get WAAAY worse when you are married, and then you will have kids who will witness it, and the kids will make it so much harder to leave. Realize that any decision you make today can affect you for the rest of your life.
2006-10-01 06:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by enit4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your eyes are blinded by "Love". They may see things about him, that you do not. Take their warnings serious. But also remember, it is your life. If they are correct, and you see this later, take charge of your choice. If you are correct and he is the one for you, then hey, you are happy. But do not discard what they say.Many a person later wished that they had not. Take the "Love Blinders" off, and look at your man with open eyes. If you still see the man you want to marry, then you have made an open minded choice. In the end tho, it is your choice, not theirs.
2006-10-01 06:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Iam!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very hard thing to answer, you need your family and everyone should have one. they mite see something you dont but go with your heart and tell your family this is what you want. If it doesnt work out tell your family I hope you are still there for me. good luck sweety.
2006-10-01 07:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by diran o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your family? Maybe they see something you don't see so acknowledge their concerns and listen without any comments;
Tell them that you make the effort to take a better look and will keep your engagement longer. If they make the effort to see what you see and to be nice.
2006-10-01 06:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you finished school and both are working full time, it is time to move out and live life. It is your choice.
If you haven't done those things and both of you depend on your own parents for a bed, a meal, and allowances, then just sit there and listen for a few more years until you are ready.
2006-10-01 06:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often times, family members can see things that you are too close to see. Maybe your boyfriend is rude or abusive, but you're too close to him to notice. Sit down and talk to your family members and have them specify exactly what their concerns are about your boyfriend. Be open-minded and willing to listen, think about it, and then decide what to do.
2006-10-01 08:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family might not like anyone that your with,but you cant live your life for them you have to do what is in your heart, but you have to make shure about him before you get to far, try to talk to them about it. they might see something you dont! if you stay with him they might not ever like him so decide if you can live withought them seeing both you together anytime.
2006-10-01 06:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The family doesn't approve can be complicated, especially around special occasions.
Mabey your family will come around and eventually like him.
2006-10-01 06:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋