How to Build my Self Esteem and Self Confidence?

Question

I always know that my self confidence and self esteem is not very high. My negative energy outshines my positive energy and the problem is that people always thought i am super energetic and super positive as I possess a shiny outlook (liar look)....

For instance, i feel i can sing though not too well...when someone commented that I croak, I would instantly stop singing from that moment...and would not have the courage to sing again.. This also applies to other things...like a person I used to date said that i perspire alot... i felt so embarrassed and I guess once there is such a blockage, self confidence level is greatly reduced and from that moment onwards, everything starts to go wrong.. cos u become so tensed, so aware of the things around, and u become less cool and less urself... well, I lost my relationship like this.... my fault i guess.. Help! i dun want to ruin relationship again... I mean I thought this one would work out, until I lose my cool and it affects my work too...

Answer 1

Do they come fully assembled. If so, pay the extra $10.00 and let the professionals do it. I hate trying to build anything. I always end up with extra pieces and then I am alarmed that perhaps one of those pieces is the very one to destroy my creation.

Answer 2

Well, let me add or help you with building your self-esteem and self-confidence....You cannot express yourself very clearly in your above writing, and maybe your English sucks!

I hope you feel down-and-out with your utilization of the English language and about yourself , and that you will never use the English language again.

Do you really care about the answers here? Do you understand the phrase, "You think therefore you are"?

Just live your life. Nobody owes you anything and you don't owe anybody anything. So what if you croak when you sing, at least you have the guts to sing. So what if you perspire a lot, everybody does.

So what if some one say this or that about you? Why do you bother about your self-esteem and self-confidence, when the real and deeper issues here is that you are egoistic and a perfectionist?

First, you want everything to be perfect, and when something is slightly out of whack, you can't handle it.

Second, you are a very egoistic person because when you hear a comment made about you, you feel embarrass, and instead of 1) listening and 2) seeking solutions to resolve the comment, you stop whatever you are doing from that moment on, and start using "the no self-courage excuse" as a crutch. Why? Because you are too proud to change.

Therefore, you should stop the bad habit of hiding under the "self-esteem" and "self-confidence" skirts when things are not going perfect for you, or when your huge pride is busted.

Answer 3

Hi,

I know how you feel! I felt exactly the same way myself! Someone would comment that I speak cantonese badly and I would stop for a few years altogether...

I even hated myself so much I did not dare to look into the mirror..

All that changed however when i attended this course called SCS. It helped me find back my confidence and it also helped me learn alot of other skills like people and relationship skills.

I have recommended alot of friends to attend SCS and they find that their confidence level really increase after they attend SCS.

if you are keen to find out more about SCS, you can email me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

All you gotta do is stop taking things so seriously. If somebody says something that makes you feel embarassed, just quickly point out one of their flaws, it always works.
And to build self esteem/confidence, goto the gym, if you know you look good, or have somebody tell you so, then your esteem and confidence will rise.

Answer 5

Learn to admit criticism and do not indulge on what others say to you. Let go those negative remarks. What you say, put it in other way, let your positive energy outshines your negative energy.This will augment your self confidence and esteem. Kudos!

Answer 6

Just believe in your self and do not worry about what other people think, good or bad and you will gain self confidence.