i have two close friends for almost 10 years already.
but i donoe why i keep thinking about the time when we were in school years back..before we were actually close the two of them were actually so called my bullies... they played a nasty prank on me with some guy etc. bringing me down.. commentted about how ugly i look.. i was pretty upset with them ..
now our realtionship is great, we called each other, confide in each other etc.. one of them has even settle down.. n all..
i mean is it terrible of me to think back of all the terrible things they did to me ..i never thought about it until recently.... like theres some unresolved issue.. between me n dem ... as i feel that i did not get to enjoy my school life because of them..
at the same time im afraid to bring the matter up as things are working well now..
helpp...
2006-09-30 21:26:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bet your ar*e you should bring it up, tell them how you feel clear the air!
2006-09-30 21:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was harsh what they did to you at school but it was school - everyone was immature at school and were easily influenced by others as soon as school was out and everyone hit their twenties the majority of them have grown up. I personally would have a meal with them and then casually bring the subject up, I bet you they will have hardly any recollection of the event and you all will end up laughing about it. If you have been friends for the last 10 years and confide in each other then you will be able to talk about your issue and look at it in a funny way. Life is too short to dwell on these things and hold grudges, if you hold a grudge you may end up losing a friend. Are you also jealous of something about your friend, such as an underlying insecurity issue? X
2006-09-30 21:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow up, mature, have adult life experiences and realize that bullying is a bad habit. If they are mature, you could bring it up casually and say remember when you all used to pick on me and now we're so close! If they have guilt feelings and would like to say, yeah, man, sorry about that...youve got a good positive friend. If they say, oh kids will be kids and dont apologize and give buts and excuses....you know they cant face their own behavior and be humble and could possibly not be a true friend. Dont bring it up and no one has to walk on 'eggshells' so to speak. Be happy. ;)
2006-09-30 21:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right first of all if you still have issues you need to sort them, they were cruel, and you have every right to be hurt, but if you want the friendships to work, you need to talk to them about it.
If they dont understand then they are not worth having as friends anyway, or they may well be feeling really crap about how they treated you, but are unsure of your reactions if they bring it up, so talk to them about it, you may get everything sorted and the friendships become stronger.
2006-09-30 22:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they bullied you because they were jealous of who you were !!! back then they reacted by getting defensive and trying to destroy what they admired , instead of getting close . They tried to destroy others image of you by bringing you down , so that others would not think highly of you putting them in the background . Its all in the past now , just remember that they have probably always admired you from afar , and now they admire you as their friend !! gave a good day X
2006-09-30 23:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by skaapie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave things as they are dear, however I can understand how you feel as I was bullied at school as well. Just remember your new friends, if your needing their help, will maybe not be there for you as before.
Take care dear, here is a kiss for luck! x
theluckyhedgehog
2006-09-30 21:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deep inside u r mad at them..
but cant tell cz u dont wanna lose ur friends..
even if u told them and had a fight and never talked to them,,that wont change ur back days high school...
so i prefer u having them as ur friends now,, and u start doing sth to them but fun!!! and btw make sure that u r not the weekest in ur group!!! cz u aint be happy ever with them!
2006-09-30 21:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by CuteeWorried 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must be okay with them now to be mates for 10 yrs. i would leave it cos they probably no how nasty they were n if u bring it up now it may cause way too much hassel
and u may end up friendless
xxxxxx
2006-09-30 21:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are that close now you should be able to tell them that they didn't treat you well in school and you need to talk it out to get over it.
2006-09-30 21:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were kids then, so let it go.
I remember bullying a kid at school because all my mates were already & I wanted to look cool. It makes me sick to think of that now. We are none of us the person we were at school.
Good job too.
2006-09-30 21:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋