do you believe in ignoring a person when they're being mean or standing up for yourself?

Question

i think everyone has the right to stand up for themselves. whoever said to 'ignore people' when they insult you to your face or treat you bad period was stupid. basically, when you ignore someone who treats you badly, you're leading them to believe that you're intimidated by them (which you might be). also, you're letting them know it's acceptable to insult you. they lose respect for you and they will continue to be disrespectful. i used to 'ignore' people when they treated me like this, but then i realized it didn't work. they still kept treating me that way, so i decided to get buck with any motherf#cker who wants to try me. i feel so much better about myself, and later on, i don't wind up wishing i had said something. people say that when you ignore someone, you're showing them you're not worried about them. i feel like if it really isn't bugging you, then don't stand up for yourself. however, i feel better when i've said something.

Answer 1

it take a man/woman to walk away, Because people who pick on other people are just bullies and tiring to impress there friends,the only thing they are doing is making themselves look ignorant don't become like them, be a better person., Remember this, if you stand up to them. will they have a Gun? you can't outrun a bullet.

Answer 2

Hey Okay relax its primary school and remember in September you will be going to the secondary. And will more than likely not even talk to this girl nor hardly see her. Okay so when your in a situation its different. So stay calm in a crises and talk to your mam about how you feel. I am going into 5 year in September. When I was in primary there were so many immature girl fights and just plan stupid behavior. And the funny thing about it is you will always have someone who you don't get along with . But all you can do is be your self and not let them get to you. Okay so talk to your mam, then tell that girl that you just want to be friends. And in your head say "I forgive you". Because in order to move on you have to forgive. And Forgiven doesn't mean you accept their behavior it means you are letting go for your self .Plus I know this girl may be really annoying but she obviously has no confidence and is playing the role of a victim. If she doesn't want to be friend give her a hug and say "Its no fun playing the victim. This may seem very deep or confusing but this is the best way to react to her there's nothing more then you can do. I hope I've helped in anyway.

Answer 3

Well, u finally found the answer... I know it gets frustrating when people gets to you... And u are stuck in between ignoring or standing up for yrself (although u may feel intimadated).. Well, I can relate... I am a very quiet gal and as a result tend to get bullied by others... They would say mean things about me, but I will just keep quiet and ignore them, thinking that they will soon get tired of teasing me and found someone else... But boy was I wrong!!! They get more bolder and their teasing get more meaner that cause me to run to the ladies and tell myself why me!!!

Eventually, one day, they tease me again... I remember taht day I had not been of the best of moods cos of so many things problems that I was facing... These grp of gals tease me again and already feeling frustrated, I just snapped at them.. with all the obscenities coming out.... I was shocked of myself too... But you should see their faces, they were quite shocked too... Finally on that day, it stop...

I am not sure whether if yrs had stopped... What i can say is do wht u feel like doing.. And yes sometimes we DO need to stand up for ourselves to show that we may be quiet but that doesn't mean we are cowards!!! Do what u think is right!!! And i think you have already find the ans yrself... Gd for u!! :)

Answer 4

Both ways of reacting can be appropriate, depending on the situation.

There are times you have to stand up for yourself, but there are times when the matter just isn't worth your doing anything but ignoring it. If you make it a point to make an issue out of the stupid stuff you look small and immature. You have to pick your battles.

There are those times when the only way you'll stop what someone is doing is by "letting them have it".

Answer 5

I will never understand how people prefer waiting until a bully gets it that someone is ignoring them ( bullies aren't very sharp), because they hope that the bullying will stop one day by doing so.... one day- when? I witnessed my friend being abused by others that way... I watched them - then I watched her... and I asked why don't you fight back? She would say- it's ok... they will stop... then they did it again.... and bam! ...they got it from me. I told her... if you are not going to do anything- I will. They instantly stopped. One time a classmate slammed a book on her head... apparently this was an ongoing thing between them... I only joined grammar school that year... I asked what she did that for? I was so perplexed ... at first I didn't know what to do... then the next time she approached my friend again I boxed her straight in the diaphragm. Everyone was shouting and cheering for me. She tried to hit me... I blocked her left and right... then she walked away very embarrassed. She never did this again. I defended my friend against so many bullies... each one of them stopped after they got it from me... and to think of it- this was going on for a whole year! I am a very petit person.... so clearly .... courage and determination to make someone stop is enough ... how can people let others treat them that way? God has equipped you with the natural ability to protect your body... you have a mouth (tell the person to stop... tell an adult), two arms (defend yourself and disable the attacker), and two legs (run away- if you can't handle- but at least try!)... most of all a brain (work out a strategy). What else is needed? Help yourself- then God will help you- that's my motto. I even helped a boy who was taller and stronger than me ( this was at a different school). This one bully would make him carry his bag... the next day he had this poor guy carry his bag and all of his friends' bags.... I couldn't fight them all... but this is what I did. In class when nobody wanted to sit next to him... I told the teacher to let him sit next to me. I was the best in all academics in my class. He absolutely blossomed after that...wrote better grades and he seemed happier- .... nobody ever dared tease me or him for sitting together... they knew they would have gotten it from me. The bully by the way became a very good friend of mine. Unfortunately that following year I changed over to the grammar- school.

Answer 6

BY standing up for yourself can prove that your not gutless on the other hand you can stand up for yourself with dignity in tack still by keeping your respect and not by being a bully like them. The bully is only picking on you because your allowing it and they are getting arise out of you so it makes them pick on you more. It depends on the situation wether you walk away or stay and stick up for yourself, It is up to you to decide what or when to stand up for yourself or walk away.

Answer 7

I personally think both ways work depending on the situation. Some people seem to feed off peoples reactions to what they say or do and other do not. Its all about reading the situation and acting appropriately

Answer 8

I feel ignoring can make the situation worse because a lot of the time you are just asking for them to get even more worked up.
But I don't think it's a good idea to submit yourself to their level. I try not to let myself get very worked up (although I don't always succeed).

Answer 9

hmm good for u to stand up for yrself. as for me i find the more i talk n stand up for myself.. the more people irritate me.. so i started to just ignore and give them a smirk and shake my head and laugh to myself or actually laugh at them .. most of them just shut up after dat .. u should try!! give them a nasty smirk!!

Answer 10

at times both depending on what things