I am a guy. And consider myself as straight. But im not close to girls. The story is liek this. I kinda admire this guy who is someone i see from time to time. But never talked to before. I think he looks prettie cute in his own way and is very sporty. It may just be admiration, but one thing i noticed is that i feel 'sweet/happy' inside when i think of him. Just like the 'sweet' feeling u get when u think of ur crush. U guys noe wat i mean? Is it normal to have this kind of 'sweet' feeling when u think of a guy? Or is the 'sweet' feeling jus the good impression i have of him?
Sometimes what i do is when i think of him, i will picture a scene of me and him in a sex position. And i would wonder if it will feel good. This is just an impulsive thought. Its not like i really want it to happen. Its just a passing thought. So i was just wondering, will picturing youself having sex with another guy that u admire make u turn gay??
2006-09-30 20:29:32 · 26 answers · asked by Jagxery 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honey..... you may be bisexual. Maybe even gay. I'm not telling you this to make you mad or to get you scared... but if you're having these feelings about someone of the same sex then it's quite likely that you have same sex inclinations and are falling for this guy.
2006-09-30 20:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't turn gay.
You are gay or not. If you are, you either know it or don't (most people do).
Admiring another guy is totally normal. Everyone has role-models from a very young age to the middle age.
You say that "Sometimes what i do is when i think of him, i will picture a scene of me and him in a sex position". That sounds pretty gay to me. Don't get scared! You might be gay but you might just be curious. If you try gay sex just once in your life, don't like it and have a straght life, that doesn't make you gay.
2006-10-01 06:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by The Greek Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are attracted to beauty, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone 'admires' looks, make no mistake about it. Where admiration ends and attraction starts is a fine line. Only you can set the line and follow your own heart. Whether your are gay or not .... time will tell. Don't make anything of these feelings, they are too undefined as to be meaningful at this point. Relax and go with the flow. good luck
2006-10-01 11:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid of what you feel
Straight guys do get weird fantasies as we all do
It depends on you weather you think this is a fantasy
or could be a reality
every man has a gay moment at least once in their lives
but you may have all ready had this moment with your feelings
Trust what ever your heart says be free to do what you need
Don't let others judge your mind for being true to yourself
good luck either way
2006-10-01 03:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I am not a man, but I have read a lot about gays and visited theirs clubs. My best friend - soul mate is a gay. Everything should be okay, but it's very hard for him to turn back to be straight. He is never 100% happy. I feel so sorry about him, sometimes I cry, because I see his pain. He wanted to have a baby, his own baby, he wants to love a girl, but he doesn't know anymore how to be as a man with the girls.
2006-10-01 04:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Milvi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, admiring another guy with not "turn" you gay. The impulse thought though, that's a thought of the subconscious part of your brain (and another story). Don't let anyone get you down because of who you are. It's no one else's business who you love and/or screw; just in case your worried about the out aspect. As far as your sexuality, based on what I read, I would say bisexual or gay.
2006-10-01 03:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by zakman05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, you're bi-curious. You could be bi or gay. You won't know the exact answer unless you totally experience it. I, myself, went through this several years ago. I found out I was bisexual (still am). I'd get nervous around a woman and when she'd compliment me, I'd feel "super happy". I didn't know why because I'd only feel "super happy" around men. Then, that's when I realized I was bi! You either have to go back in time to when this started (and how it did), or take action and hook up with this man (if he has interest in you). Also, if you're feeling this way, it's been in you all your life (that you're bi or gay). I know because when I recapped my thoughts, I remembered having feelings for woman and men when I was only 5!!!
2006-10-01 03:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by candyxxx2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the thought that makes you gay but the action itself. As long as you don't act on it you are straight sometimes I think of women in this way and although I have no problem kissing women I would never be with one. I have a boyfriend and wouldn't want it any other way. But if you would be happier with a man then so be it. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-01 03:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by xxxlostsocalgirlxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jag, it doesn't sound like it to me. If you were gay, you would know it very early in life, not just over a guy you admire a lot from a distance. You might be bi, or you might just be straight and feel close to this particular dude. I would not worry about it. You sound homosocial -- you like the company of men, you hang around men. Being homosocial does not make you homosexual. And one sexual fantasy over a guy does not make you homosexual either.
2006-10-01 10:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, yea, you didn't turn gay, you are gay or bisexual, but since you said you don't feel special feelings for girls, then I would say your gay, and normal stright men do not have any feelings toward men at all, they act like there not even there, and so by you liking this guy, this crush, I think you should investigate whether the guy is gay or bisexual cause then you can talk to him and tell him your situation, and he'll take it over from there
2006-10-01 11:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋