There are two books you can try (read on).
The first thing you have to realize is that women are NOT wired the same as men and no matter what you THINK they're thinking, they'll change their mind.
John Gray provides many examples of this variant way of thinking in his book MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.
Rodale Press came out with a thick book a few years ago titled A LIFETIME OF SEX, specifically for men a guide to help them chart the perilous journey of meeting and mating. Among its chapters are ways to meet women and some attempts at understanding the female psyche. Again, the authors advise the reader to show restraint and rein in your language.
Don't monopolize the conversation.
Let her talk. Women appreciate men who know how to listen.
Seriously!
If you can honestly listen to her without your eyes glazing over once, you'll score big points.
Of course, be yourself. Don't lie (even little white ones). You will be caught out. Women are extremely adept at "reading" other people, men are terrible at it. A woman will know if you're lying or hedging or unsure of yourself. And she can smell desperation a mile off.
A woman wants to know that a guy can be trusted and that he's not a jerk. No one wants to waste their time on an asshole (figuratively, if not literally :).
If you are lucky enough to find a woman who shows interest in you DON'T talk about sex or past girlfriends. Find a neutral subject like current movies or ask her what her interests are, like what she does for fun.
Write on a card you can hold in a pocket or even write it on your sleeve if you have to just so you remember NOT to talk about your old girlfriends. Girls don't care to hear about who you've gone out with before. If they want to know they'll ask.
Don't sound cocky because you'll sound like an *** and the woman will know it.
Even if you think a woman is the most beautiful one in the place, refrain from telling her that. If she IS really beautiful she's heard it before. Tell her something that at least sounds more authentic, like what attracted you to her was her eyes or the way her hair looks in the light. Women often spend a lot of time on their hair and like to be complimented on it.
If you're lucky enough to have overheard her say something interesting or clever, use that as a way of introducing yourself, by telling her you agree with what she said or that you were thinking the same thing.
Most important, and I can't stress it enough, do NOT talk about other women!!
2006-09-30 20:45:09
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answered by rootinteuton 2
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Forget books, just tell her, the chosen one, (not a women) you really would love to get to know her better and ask her if you can buy her a coffee. Pull your trousers up, shave and smile and you will win all the time.
2006-10-01 03:21:59
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answered by Anonymous
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You won't find the answer in a book, why don't you just talk to her, Ask her? Only she can tell you how she feels.
2006-10-01 07:19:20
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answered by knightlibby 2
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The name of the book is growup u dumbass
2006-10-01 04:01:51
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answered by Anonymous
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