What should someone trapped do? SERIOUS QUESTION SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY?

Question

Ok say there is someone that wants to leave a really nasty, unhealthy relationship but they have looked everywhere for a job including jobs like McDonalds, Pizza Hut, and Blockbuster and they didn't even call back. They applied to dozens and dozens of jobs but could not get hired. Why? Don't know. Could be lack of experience and professional references. They haven't worked for several years because of raising kids then not being able to find a job. After months of rejection from even lowly places like fast food and imimum wage jobs they can't take it anymore.They wanted to get a job then get their own place to live but can't do that without a job. There is no where else to go. There is 1 set of relatives but they are super controlling and were abusive. (Girls from abused relationships have tendencies to unintentionally get in new abusive relationships). So is someone in this situation doomed to be trapped for life or is there anything else? Children are involved or she would live incar

Answer 1

is there any possibility of getting trained in anything where there are a lot of well paying jobs (like a 8 week IT course or something?)


also - did you try temp agencies... they are more motivated to get you a job than blockbuster, etc... cuz they take part of yoru paycheck. they match your skills to the job, i.e. receptionist, data entry, secretary temp, etc...

Answer 2

Find a shelter for mothers there is one in every city and state. If you are in an abusive relationship and your children see or even hear the fighting, they are at high risk of growing up to be abusers or the abused! So that's what I suggest the best place usually to go is the Red-Cross or the YWCA. They're usually safer than no name non-profit shelters run by churches and such! They can also help you find a job and possibly some alternative housing for you and your children. honestly if you have to get on welfare and find some low-income or affordable housing and do that until you can find a job or even try staying on welfare go to school or some kind of job training program that will possibly help you get back into the work field! I know these don't sound all that glamorous but for now it's the best you can do to at least get out of that house right away! Besides if you were to get a job what kind of place do you think you can rent with little - no money down and little job history. Believe it or not I had to pay about $1000 dollars extra when moved into my 2nd apartment just because I hadn't been on my job for more than 2 years! So it's not like finding a place is going to be a piece of cake! But just think of your children first and try one of these suggestions so you can get out right now! The best part about life is that Sh** doesn't last forever if you don't want it to, You're not trapped and you will never be if make a move Now! You obviously have the strength so use it! I hope everything works out, I'll say a special prayer for you!

Answer 3

Well as far as the job hunting, I think the problem might be with the applications that are being filled out. Since this person hasn't worked there are gaps that need to be filled in. I would suggest saying on those apps that they were babysitting other kids as well as their own. Get a friend to be a reference. Just find ways to make the applications more presentable. Temp agencies might be a good place to start. If it gets any worse there are shelters and Church's that can help. Good luck!

Answer 4

There is always help with their housing and living expenses. This person could always get training while getting help from different agencies. Something to think about. This person could always look at the help as a stepping stone to improve their life. Get training, get a job, then take care of themselves and the kids. This is a way out of the bad relationship they are in. Good luck to this person.

Answer 5

No it should not be this way. Is there a welfare organisation where u r. I live in South Africa. I know in the UK, you get a welfare grant and they provide a place to stay. Also if her husband is working, then he must pay maintenance. She should go seek legal advice, and get the ball rolling. No she doesnt have to live like this. Husband is making life hard, husband must pay support for her and the kids. Tell her to fight for what she is entitled to. She can even phone a place for abused women. They can help. good luck

Answer 6

I'm addressing this to this hypothetical woman..

First of all, you gotta call these places back. A lot of the time they get sidetracked and bosses forget to call or want to test you to see if you call yourself. I'm sure you have the experience, so just be persistent and aggressive in your job hunt and you'll get a job. As for the children and you, try renting or subleasing a 1 bedroom apt for your sanity and try looking online for support groups for you during this time... We can say as much as we can on yahoo but ultimately you need people in your life to help you figure things out and support you emotionally. You are not trapped unless you allow yourself to be.

Answer 7

Check the local community college, they often have job boards for students and she can sign up for a class or two to improve her skills. Often it's possible to get loans/grants. If she's a displaced homemaker that could help her cause to get educational assistance. Tell her to never give up!!!! She also needs to be positive and well groomed so she looks like she's a go-getter. This job market is very competitive today.

Answer 8

Find the local womens shelter, or safe house. Most cities have them. They will help them find a job and get them back on their feet. Some of these shelter even provide child care for when they find a job. They can even help to find an apartment or house when their ready to move out on their own.

Answer 9

If it's that bad go to a shelter. Try going to the unemployment office. Look on the internet for jobs. www.monster.com
www.carreerfinder.com or look up your local paper online.
When filling out an application stretch the truth. Since you haven't worked but have been a homemaker I would say you were a child care provider, maid , cook, etc..

Answer 10

If it's an abusive situation, try looking into shelters for women and children. My best friend from high school went to one with her three kids until she got back on her feet after leaving her abusive husband.

If you have a local YWCA, you might try that as well.