a week ago i was mis behaving so my mom got a belt and hit my thigh with it and left a welt on my leg then the next day i was bad again so she might say i can liv with my dad since she cant handle me n she hit me with the belt again twice on tha shoulder then on the leg then on my foot then on my a$$ and im only 12 yrs old and im terrified that 1 day my mom iz jus gunna hit me n hurt me sooo bad that im gunn get hurt reallllly bad......what do i do? and she is abusing me right?
2006-09-30 19:02:04 · 27 answers · asked by lovable angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have ‘the right’ to not be abused…
You have ‘the responsibility’ to not behave badly !!!
What do you think your mother should do if you act badly?
What would your father do if you acted badly toward him?
If you were old enough to be a parent, what would you do if your child behaved badly?
If you know you are misbehaving… Don’t do it !
Stop giving your mother reason to punish you !!!
Have you told your mum that you hate her?…
Refer to your question…
my mom and dad r seperated help wut should i do?
my mom and dad r seperated and my mom iz alwayz on myspace chatting wit guyz and talkin to em on the phone but then she turnz around and crys cause my dad dont love her anymore..... iz that so bad of me to say i hate her and wish she would get outta my life? cause thatz how i feel and now im alwayz mad at me!!!!!! what should i do? iz that bad of me to hate her?
Do you believe your mother loves you or what?
When you are not misbehaving and being punished…
Does your mum look after you?
You have ‘the right’ to not hate your mother…
You have ‘the responsibility’ to be respectful !!!
2006-09-30 19:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you have a place to go before you report your mom. You do not want to wind up in foster care.
If you are SURE you have a better place, and are not just wishing for attention from your other parent, you can show the welts to a teacher or counselor at your school. They are obligated by law to report instances of abuse, and generally, leaving welts is considered abuse. Social services may just order your Mom into family counseling, though.
You should not be being hit with a belt in this day and age.
2006-09-30 19:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youngster ... first I would say ... WHY don't you just behave ?? If you were not giving her a reason to be angry with you than she probably wouldn't be and you wouldn't get punished for your actions ... take responsibility for your actions.
Years ago the discipline that you are describing was more the norm than the exception ... but now days, we are all into time-outs (which don't work and which is why our crime rates continue to escalate) .. but none the less .. she probably shouldn't be hitting you with a belt.
I think you should sit down with her and tell her you are going to work hard at not mis-behaving .. and you would ask her to find another way to punish you other than the belt.
Good luck .. and PLEASE behave !
2006-09-30 19:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouuld say yes, because what she did wasn't nesscary because she should have talked to you about whatever you did insted of resorting to physical violence. If you have anymore quesstions feel free to e-mail me at: sparkling_blue_eyes_baby@yahoo.com or IM me at sparkling_blue_eyes_baby.
If it ever gets ot eh point where you are scared to your well being then you need to to call another family member and you should tell them what's going on. ( If your in that postion now then walk away from this computer and call a family member like you dad or your grandma or something and have them come and get you) I hope this helped. Good luck and I'll say a prayer for you.
2006-09-30 19:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_blue_eyes_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is showing you tough love. Your mother loves you and is trying to raise you correctly. You are at an age where you are testing her and not listening to her like you used to. She is reverting back to how she was raised and I'm confident she got the belt when she was out of hand at your age.
Try to put yourself in your mother's shoes and imagine her in yours. How would react if your daughter was doing what you did to get your mother upset. If you are unable to do that... think of it this way:
Imagine if you had a great little dog named "Fritzy" all of your life. It has been the best friend and companion for 12 years! You are very proud of how you raised Fritzy. You cared for her and made sure she was well fed. You took care of her when she was sick. You made her a nice bed to sleep in. Fritzy loved you and licked your face everyday. She listened to your every command and you were proud of Fritzy.
Suddenly... one day Fritzy didn't listen to you. Fritzy didn't eat when you put out her food. Fritzy started biting your hand when you got close to her. She barks at you when you command her to do something. Fritzy ignores you. You are not sure what to do. You miss the old Fritzy. So you decide to give Fritzy some space but she doesn't change and it get's worse. So you try talking to Fritzy calmly and hope she'll listen. Occasionally she'll pay attention and do as you ask. You miss Fritzy and start to panic that you're losing control. You decide to take more drastic measures and grab the belt. All you want Fritzy to do is listen and do as you say. You want her to stop biting you. So you hit her with a belt. You don't want to hurt her. It pains you to hit her. Fritzy gets angry and cries! You feel terrible but you know it's for Fritzy's own good. You love her sooo much but Fritzy thinks you are angry with and hate her. Whenever Fritzy sees you now she hides or barks at you. You miss your buddy Fritzy.
Do you think you are abusing Fritzy?
It's hard to be a parent. It's hard to be growing young lady. I promise you if you listen to and respect your mother, she will respect and trust you. Be open and communicate kindly with your mother. You're mom just wants her Fritzy back.
I don't mean to compare you to a house pet... I simply want to make a point to try and help you. I'm confident you are a good kid. Try to help your mother by helping yourself. She loves you. Try to show her you love her too. :)
2006-09-30 19:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Michaels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no sympathy for self inflicted pain. You knew your Mom would hit you so you misbehaved so you can go and live with Dad. It really doesnt work that way girl. Your Mom only hit you when you misbehaved so straighten up. You are trying to do something that can make major changes to your family you better stop and think before you say your Mom is abusing you. Is she abusing you or are you a brat?
2006-09-30 19:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
While I in no way agree with your mom's way of disciplining you, I would like to ask you why you are misbehaving? Perhaps if you set down with you Mother and had a long, honest talk with her and You also listen to your Mom who is older and wiser, you both could come to a mutual respect and understanding. You are only twelve years old and right now, your Mom is trying to raise you to be a valued, good person in society. I think you should calm down and show your mother respect and actually listen to her and mind her for now. It is hard to grow up and you are at a difficult age. Try playing by your Mom's rules for now and I'll bet she won't have to "abuse you".
2006-09-30 19:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Royallady1947 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She isn't abusing you. She is spanking you. By the way, you are too old to be spanked so you must be really doing some stupid things. If you are 12 years old, why are you still up? I just may go in there and spank you too. Get off of the computer and go to bed.
Another thing. You have a attitude problem. You have a foul mouth, you need to get your life together missy. You are living in her house you have to follow her rules. Quit acting like a little girl and take responsibility for your actions. Be part of the family. Do things to help your Mom out. Don't make her life miserable. She is the one who is working and providing you with a home and clothes and food. GROW UP.
2006-09-30 19:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
you need to find an adult you can trust and explane what is happining, like a teacher, grandparents, neighbor, someone who is near to you and can help... that is a very touchy situation.... i would say if you dont feel safe somewhere or feel your life is in danger dial 911 even if you are unsure and are still scared and she starts to hit you call them, and if they ask you whats going on tell them everything dont lie, because if you do, your mom will probably only hurt you more if you call them and then they leave you know??? well try the first thing though, find someone you can trust and who can help you and talk to them! good luck and you will be in my prayers! xoxoxoxoxo
2006-09-30 19:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds to me like your mom doesnt know what to do to get you to act the way she wants you to...why are you misbehaving? do you want to live with your dad? i don't think that the belt is the answer but really your mom at this point doesnt know any thing else to do and it isnt going to help the situation between you two...maybe you could go to counseling so she could learn some healthy and productive ways of communicating with you...i would be terrified too....tell her you want to see a counselor......soon.....
2006-09-30 19:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by bertha 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋